J.O. Friend



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 68
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retired (construction)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? More bisexual as I get older
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

J.O. Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was trim and in decent shape, what might be described as a nicely aging twink.
Maybe 15 years younger than me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I answered his very brief Craigslist ad for a J.O. buddy. He asked me to send my ‘stats’ which I did, and I was surprised to receive a “Come on over” reply. We both wanted the same thing, age difference aside.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was a small, trim man – just the way I like them – and rather sloppily dressed as he answered the door and invited me in. We sat on his small sofa where we quickly started making out, touching and exploring each other. He wore a loose t-shirt and baggy shorts (maybe boxers) and right away his erection was obvious. I was about half hard, and not the least worried about getting it up. He was gentle, sexy, and had very good hands. When I touched him I found the most beautiful penis I’d ever had the pleasure to play with. I couldn’t get enough of him and soon he suggested we move to the bedroom, where we slipped out of what was left of our clothes and snuggled up close on his bed.
We both liked lube and soon were slippery and completely hard as we jacked off. I couldn’t get over how pretty his hard-on was! We watched each other stroke, fumbled through several minutes of ‘mutual’ masturbation, and eventually started jacking our way to orgasm in earnest. He came first (this was the only time that happened) as I jacked him, moaning that he was gonna cum even as he started to squirt, and I was astonished as long ropes of slick, milky semen landed on his face and chest! I was moaning as loud as he was (he was not a very ‘demonstrative’ lover) as his cum continued to gush out, onto his belly, covering my busy hand and his throbbing dick. Within a minute or two of his climax, I laid back and groaned through my own intense but less messy orgasm as he jacked me. He was a quiet, but generous and sensual partner. Hand towels were immediately available for ‘clean up’.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was very comfortable. For the most part pretty quiet while making out, he was warm and even chatty after we’d gotten off, and we talked for sometime back in his living room after we’d ‘tidied up’, and I showered, per his suggestion. I was truly hoping to see him again and told him so. In fact, I was pretty much hard again within 10 or 15 minutes as we visited, (sitting in our underwear) but he laughed it off and said we’d have to wait till next time. I was crazy for him to even that first time, and still am.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That we were both into safe sex, that he was very good looking, gentle, and intelligent, and of course his stunningly beautiful boy parts. Not to mention his incredible ejaculations!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing all that bad – I prefer a more vocal, demonstrative partner but it is what it is.
That and the fact that I REALLY wanted to suck him off but didn’t have the nerve.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We were together maybe a dozen times over 2 or 3 years. Mostly stuck with masturbation, but I did go down on him a couple of times while he wore a condom. Never sucked him bareback, and we stuck by our original ‘safe sex’ plan and never fucked. In truth, by the time he moved on, he could have had me pretty much any way he wanted me.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Always comfortable with casual sex, I’m pretty much a Libertine. I find the double standard allowing men to fuck around while women that do the same are labeled as sluts an outrage. Always have. I do believe that’s changing and of course, that’s for the better. Go get em’, girls.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Excellent.

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