Just What I Needed

by Hutch
Gender: Female

Age: 63
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: California
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: writer
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Just What I Needed

How long ago did this hookup happen? ended 6 months ago…lasted  for nearly two years

How would you best classify this hookup? fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One partner; he was cute and 14 years younger. We met online and I was attracted to him but was just out of a marriage to someone younger and wasn’t looking to do it again.
He didn’t care how old I was. He wasn’t looking for a relationship and thought I was “smoking hot.”  I thought it was a bad idea at first, worried I might  fall for him and wasn’t ready for that. But I was very attracted to him and after being ditched by my ex for a younger woman my ego needed some stroking and I’ve never been hung up about sex…child of the 60s. I have had over 100 sexual partners… and I was married for 23 years and never cheated.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He asked me to just come up and watch a movie  in his very cool home theater. I went. We started making out and ended up in bed. It was mutual and amazing.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Lots of free wheeling sex. I gave it all up, felt free and uninhibited because I knew it was just sex but still I liked him so it was respectful and he was very attentive. I felt great during and after. I didn’t orgasm but was so sexually stimulated the whole time I honestly didn’t care. He was really into pleasing me which was really nice and when he came it was so powerful. Afterwards we talked about movies, some politics, travel. I hung around for about an hour after then went home. Totally satisfied.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did talk about protection. But didn’t use any… I know, I know. But after that first time we were monogamous so it wasn’t a problem. This became an ongoing hookup for almost two years, every couple of weeks. Sometimes he texted me and sometimes I texted him. It was always great. I never found myself falling for him in any sort of serious way, didn’t put anything more on it than just liking him, being hot for him and enjoying our time together.  We never stayed over…usually only lasted 2-3 hours. I like to dress up in sexy outfits and he loved that. We used toys and did all kinds of positions. Just had such a hot time. I have absolutely zero regrets.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was horny and missed sex. I have always been pretty free sexually. I have a strong sex drive and have never really tied sex to love…so it was perfect for me. Also I was feeling rejected so having a hot guy think I was sexy was good for me.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A glass of wine before

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great. I wanted more, but not too much. We struck the perfect balance..couple of times a month for a couple of years. It just sort of petered out. When we met he was very career driven and selfish and it seemed like he didn’t really want to give a lot of energy to a relationship but he had a strong sex drive. I suspect as he got closer to 50 he was thinking more about settling down. I was not interested in anything more than sex with him. I think he’s a great guy. He’s not someone I would want to have a long term real relationship with, but he certainly helped me thru a tough time and helped me get my groove back.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friends and my gay friends. They were thrilled and jealous!

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Absolutely. I’d like to find it again.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best…feeling so free sexually because there were no expectations, nothing piled on, just pleasure.
Worst…that it ended. I would like to find another hook up partner.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I think older women who are out of their marriages for whatever reason should throw out that old model of love, marriage, sex and just enjoy their bodies, and have some great sex for a while. It’s good for you..mentally, physically and psychologically if you go into it honestly without expectations. And trust me, there are a lot of young guys out there who don’t want the pressure of a serious relationship and would love to have sex with an older woman. I get contacted on the dating sites all the time. The youngest I’ve hooked up with was 24…but that’s another story. 🙂

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