How I Knew I’m Bi



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Sacramento
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? None
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Wild
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

How I knew I’m bi

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Asian man mid 40s late 30s average hight a little chubby and a small dick

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began off a Craigslist ad I posted. Very little planning maybe a week but probably less.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We hooked up on and off for a little over a year. We’d meet somewhere near me and we would have sex in his car parked on the side of the street. This was just too experiment with my sexual preference because I wasn’t sure that I was bi. The first time we’d met up I was barley 18 and he was as old as someone who’d be my dad. I was very excited and anxious for this. We’d suck each other off and jerk each other off usually. This last time was a couple months or so before I got into a relationship with a girl, was the best, and how I definitely knew I was bi. I couldn’t put it in my mind every time we met up and had sex that I was bi. We’d try having anal sex before but it didn’t work. This last time he told me to get on my side and I did he was a little aggressive, more than usual, and put a bunch of lube on his dick and kind of just slowly entered me. It felt so satisfying, he started to get a little rough when he was Fucking me and it turned me on more. That was the moment I knew and got it thru my head I was bi.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt dirty, we hooked up once or twice more for blow jobs and hand jobs in his car. I wasn’t ashamed but I had got into a relationship so that was the end of the hookups.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Revenge / Getting even, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…), Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing, besides finding out I was bi, was having his dick inside of me

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Feeling dirty

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I would like to do it again but o have a girlfriend

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My sexual preference, which changed my aspect of life in a lot of ways

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fun and reliving

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