Lost Virginity To Foreign Exchange Student

by Yellow fever

Gender: Male
Age: 30
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Texas
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Lost Virginity To Foreign Exchange Student

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a Chinese student at my college, 6 years older than me. Her English was more like Engrish. She was plus sized — about 5’5″, 145 lbs. We had a class together. Before this hookup I identified her purely as a potential ‘fuck toy’. This is because she was shy and insecure and didn’t have many friends, and I have had success at hooking up with girls like that. However I hadn’t ever had intercourse with anyone before (only oral). She had had at least one man before, but not many more.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started talking one day after class. I guess you could say I was ‘grooming’ her, or at least testing the waters, because I sat very close to her. I let my hand barely touch her thigh… and she looked up immediately and gasped, because it really came out of nowhere.

“Do you like me?” she asked.

“Uhh… yeah” I faintly replied, not expecting her to be so direct.

Honestly I wasn’t ready for her to receive me so directly or put me on the spot, so I kind of stepped back and slowed down. Nothing happened yet that day. A few days later after class I asked her if she wanted to go back to her apartment and hang out (it wasn’t too far out of the way for either of us). I was trying to be sly and suave and all that crap, thinking that I was still grooming her to maybe fool around a little. As soon as we got to her place, she put her stuff down and quickly wrapped her arms around me. She pushed me on the bed and told me to wait. She disappears, then reappears wearing a dress, but no underwear on. I am basically freaking out because this is by far the closest I’ve ever come to intercourse, and I have some religious hangups about it doing it (coming from a conservative background, I found the “everything but sex” approach to keep my guilt at bay)

… anyway, she pulled my pants off and straddled me, and I could feel her pussy hair / lips on me. At this point I freaked out and… ended it. I couldn’t do it. But that’s not the end of the story!

Keeping in mind that she is an insecure and somewhat fat girl, with severe language issues, it wasn’t a big deal to abruptly end the encounter and more or less blow her off — she still wanted me to like her. But my young hormones wanted to have her pussy still.

So fast forward a week or so later. I found her on campus and my apartment was empty for the night with roommates out of town. I invited her to come over and it was clear to both of us that there would be something sexual happening. She’s there and we’re “watching tv”, which of course is codeword for sitting around waiting for the right moment to make a move. A little while later I’m holding her hand walking to my room, then sitting on my bed, then taking our clothes off.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I am naked, and then she is naked. We are sitting up. I pull her towards me, which somewhat inadvertently (but quite fittingly) ends up having me on my back and her on top. Although I have completely made all this happen by playing on her insecurities,  I still see her as being the aggressor — in that she actually is letting me have my way with her body, where previous women haven’t.

We’re now in a ‘woman on top’ position, but my dick isn’t inside her yet. She’s hesitating, probably waiting to see what I say or want her to do. (It turns out she was very sexually inexperienced/insecure, although having had intercourse before).

I say out out, “fuck it… fuck it… fuck it…” but I’m not talking to her. I am talking to myself, basically just saying ‘fuck it’ to the last of my sexual inhibitions from my religious beliefs. Then I look at her tits and pussy and my cock:
“fuck me!”

Dick in pussy. Heavenly feelings of warmth. And… I came in (literally) less than 15 seconds. Ha!

Then I was an asshole. I felt guilty and made her leave my place. Sorry babe. That was a seriously dick move to make.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, I could feel myself about to cum and pulled out quickly. I was very embarrassed of course. She obviously did not orgasm.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Nothing. No condom. No STI history. The next time we hooked up she told me she was afraid about getting pregnant (after having to use her dictionary to find the English word for ‘pregnant’). I came prepared with condoms for that time.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was a 20 year old male. I have been dreaming of fucking a girl ever since I had the faintest idea of what sex was. She was easy pickings to give it to me. So we did it.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I already had no respect for her and saw her as a fuck toy. And I continued to treat her that way. I felt guilty, but got over it and fucked her several more times, always just showing up at her place when I felt like it and expecting her to be in the mood.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only internet strangers like you. I am too embarrassed to let any friends know that I had a secret fuck toy.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yeah, I guess you could say that we both wanted it. It was both thrilling and also lame.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret all the times that I could have had sex before with other women, and passed up. I regret that I treated this girl like shit. She is a human being and I was a serious selfish asshole the way I treated her.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best – got laid the first time
Worst – I treated a woman like an animal. I used her for my purpose at will and discarded her when I was tired of it

This hookup encouraged me to have more casual sex

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? As mediocre as this sexual experience was, I still frequently masturbate thinking about it. It all seems thrilling in hindsight, but I know at the time that it was terrifying and disappointing

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