Mutual Need Satisfied



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 65
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Sales
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20-30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Mutual Need Satisfied

How long ago did this hookup happen? Lasted for 2 years. Finished six months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Although I am in my mid-60s I look ten years younger so I met a very pretty, dark haired BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) in her early-mid 40s who shared the misfortune with me of a sexless marriage. We met through an adult hookup site. By emailing a few times we checked each other’s ability to string a sentence together and that both possessed an intelligent sense of humour. I really do think smart bold women are sexy; I was not disappointed. Also we agreed that both of us had too much invested in our legitimate partnerships and discretion was important.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both live in a large city so met for lunch. The physical attraction was obvious. One salad later we had booked a room at a local hotel for the afternoon. 30 minutes after that we were in bed together

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I suppose she was a sub but I am not a natural dominant. However because she was multi-orgasmic from oral it was never a problem. She arrived at subsequent hookups in an empty apartment already wet – and she was a great kisser too.I have met very few women who do not like cunnilingus and cuddles with me. I discovered she was extremely easily aroused by licking and nibbling nipples then proceeding southwards. This along with face sitting and 69 were our best positions. Actual vaginal intercourse was right at the end of our weekly sessions after maybe 40 minutes or so of oral. I have a better endowed tongue than penis so that suited us both. I like my ladies to wear leather so she would oblige with a soft coat or jacket and nothing else. I suppose the sex was fairly conventional but we were able to sustain that through weekly sessions for two years with occasional use of toys. The use of a remote control vibrator went down well when I persuaded her to sit opposite me in a restaurant and attempt normal conversation while I pressed the buttons

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both alleviated our permanent relationship frustrations by being with each other. We both suffered from guilt because we did not want to hurt the feelings of partners so there would be occasional breaks. Until the last time – she walked away after two years of excellent sex. I was not really surprised because guilt began to weigh heavily on her

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? My permanent partner did not know and still does not. We remain happy together

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Not even my best friend knows. This is the first time I have written about it

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Great company. Great sex. No guilt most of the time – but that’s what finished it

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me feel more attractive. Gave me the ability to get back in the chase after some fallow years. Confirmed that my age was no barrier to feeling horny and being able to do something about it on my terms. That humour, courtesy and determination will attract

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has played a part in my life as a frequent traveller from time to time. I only indulge with people who are capable of saying no

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting to read others’ experiences and to benefit from them for the future

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!