Race/ethnicity: White British
Current location: London
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Investment banker
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 250
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4
My Girlfriend’s Housemate
How long ago did this hookup happen? Around 8 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? During my second year at university, I had a girlfriend who shared a house with four other girls. R was one of my girlfriend’s housemates. She was a tall, slim brunette. I’d been attracted to her for a while and was pretty sure she was attracted to me too.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’d stayed over at my girlfriend’s the night before, and was hanging around there whilst she was out going to classes all morning. I was watching TV in the living room and after a while R joined me and sat next to me on the sofa. We started talking and I could feel some sexual tension between us. She must have just got out of the shower because her hair was still wet and I remember the smell of her shampoo. We discussed what we’d done the previous evening and I decided to mention that after my girlfriend had gone to sleep I’d watched a French film called The Swimming Pool, which had a lot of sex in it, and that got us to talking about sex. Pretty soon I made a move and kissed her.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? While we were making out on the sofa, R started stroking my cock through my jeans. I unzipped her jeans and slipped my hand inside her panties. Once she’d got quite wet, she suggested going up to her bedroom. Once we were there, we both took all our clothes off and almost immediately R knelt on the floor and started sucking my cock. Then she got a condom from her underwear drawer and gave it to me to put on and lay on her back on the bed. We had sex in the missionary position for a while, but I eventually got bored of it, so I rolled her over, got her onto all fours and had sex with her from behind until I came.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? She didn’t that first time, but I did when I had sex with her from behind.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss it but we did use a condom.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was dissatisfied in my relationship with my girlfriend and, as wrong as it was, I was really excited by the idea of having sex with another girl. I think R and my girlfriend might have had some sort of unresolved issues which meant that R was really into the idea of fucking her boyfriend, but I can’t be sure. The fact we were doing it in the house my girlfriend lived in, and that there was a slim chance she could come home for some reason and catch us doing it, made it even hotter.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards, we both lay on her bed naked and talked for a while before she had to have another shower and get ready to go to a lecture. At that point, I got dressed and went home to have a shower myself and meet my girlfriend for lunch. I broke up with my girlfriend not long afterwards, and I kept hooking up with R both before and after the break up until we eventually lost interest in each other. My girlfriend never found out that I’d cheated on her with R.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody except R herself, as we needed to make sure my girlfriend didn’t find out.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Looking back some time afterwards, I felt guilty about cheating on my girlfriend, but I have to admit that at the time I loved it and didn’t regret it at all.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the added charge from the fact that I was cheating, R was screwing over her friend, and at any moment we could get caught doing it. I suppose the worst thing was the guilt that came later, but it was much later.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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