What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Qatar
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was slim, sophisticated and beautiful.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had met once before for sex but this was just a warm-up for the second time.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We’d messaged a lot before the hook-up and after our first time together. I think we were just testing each other out the first time for safety. The second hook-up was the real thing. We’d discussed what we liked and it was obvious she liked to be dominated by older men. She wanted anal sex which I’d never tried before. We discussed a scenario where she was going to be a student late for a lesson. I was going to be the teacher and I was going to punish her with spanking and anal sex. As she neared the hotel she messaged me from her train describing how wet she was getting. I urged her to put her fingers in herself whilst she was on the train. When she knocked on the hotel room door and I opened the door and dead-panned, “You’re late, where have you been?”. I told her to stand in the middle of the room and bend over. I asked if she was wet and told her what a dirty girl she was whilst fingering her from behind. She ws so wet my hand was dripping. I pulled her knickers down (every time we met she wore lovely underwear). I came around in front of her, grabbed her by the hair and roughly put my cock in her mouth. She seemed to like that and groaned. The screaming would come later. After a while of this, I moistened my finger with her juice and gently slid a finger in her ass. She seemed to suck harder and arched her back. I gradually worked three fingers in there to loosen her. All the while she was on all fours in front of a mirror. I moved behind her and gently pushed my cock in (I’m not long but reasonably thick). Just watching my cock slide up her ass for the first time I could have come there and then. She arched her back and let out a moan. She was so tight but it slid in and out very easily. I started plunging harder and she started to moan and scream. It seemed the harder and rougher I fucked her the more she screamed. My wife likes sex to be gentle so this was a totally new experience for me. I felt so powerful and felt something of my manhood returning after 25 years in a marriage where sex had almost stopped. We moved to a desk in the hotel room and I threw her over and continued to fuck her as hard as I could. She seemed to love it. I eventually came and slumped over her. We had a shower together and then later I fucked her vaginally and it was just as good. She had these amazing grey eyes that seemed to come alive when you fucked her. I remember leving her an hour later and walking down the street feeling like a man for the first time in years. I went to a pub to meet friends and I seemed to attract women like I haven’t done for years. Could they smell the sex? Was it my demeanor that had changed? Certainly my confidence. We met perhaps 12 times (there were some up and downs) and I haven’t seen her for 3 years.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I just wanted more. I knew I could try anything with her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was so beautiful and made me feel like a man.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We had a misunderstanding half-way through after I had been stupid and went back on the hook-up site. It was exciting talking to women but I didn’t want more than her. She found out and went ballistic. In the end, we sorted it out. I wasn’t stupid again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I know now that dominating someone is something I really like and I do look at younger women now wondering whether they’d like to be fucked, have their hair pulled and be spanked too.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I miss her.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? No chance of casual sex where I am now.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting.
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