Quick Fling

by Heather

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Eastern USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Researcher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Wiccan/Pagan
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Mostly gay. Hetero curious.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Quick Fling

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies/Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Bald. Older Irish man.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I met him on tinder and we talked for a day or two. I instigated the hookup but he also seemed to want to meet up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met up and walked into the woods with his dog. He kissed me and then fell to his knees to pulled my pants down. He kissed my pussy and then had me blow him before he fucked me and came inside.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt guilty. It wasn’t even good. I kind of miss him although he didn’t even know my real name. I was just trying to see if I liked dick or not. I was hoping I would hate it but I kind of liked it.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)

How intoxicated was your partner? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only told my best friend

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? She was shocked because this isn’t like me

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I cheated and it was a dangerous situation.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I like how dick feels in my pussy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I cheated and I was scared of pregnancy.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I don’t know.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We met on tinder. I liked it.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish casual sex was more common and not so tabboo. The only reason I’m in a monogamous relationship is because that’s what she wants.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very good

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