by Ravi Shankar
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Shhhhh
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self employed
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1st story
Sex Diary 1.0 – Immature Virginity Loss To My Maid
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Lets refer to her as Mary. Mary was about 25 years old and was our new house maid in Africa. I was 17 and in my final year of high school. She was, decent looking. Pretty face with a super slim and we worked out waist line with the most perfect bubble butt in the world. Perfectly plump but not massive and she had the sexiest hips and legs to follow. She was always a good house maid who did her work excellently and even got a pay rise In a short time. I had no intentions ever to hook up with my maid which I later learned in life was pretty common for teenage boys growing up in African settings. Be it casually or transactionally. In my case, it ended up being a casual encounter completely unplanned, motivated out of sheer horniness and curiosity of a virgin 17 year old.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It just so happened, Mary had some greet time and had joined me In watching some TV. A sex scene that showed up triggered my senses and her sexy figure ripping through her tight shirt wasn’t helping. I made a bold move and asked her about her boyfriends etc. In which I could tell she was emotionally starved now that I think of it after years of experience. She seemed pretty open in describing the size of his endowment and I was pretty surprised to realize she had had sex without ever giving blowjobs.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At a point where I couldn’t hold back, I asked her if she could give me her thoughts on my dick. She nicely agreed. A dry handjob revealed my erect 6 inches of average girth. She loved the colour and the fact that I was uncut. I got to fondle her and even finger her. Undressing her revealed how sexy she was indeed. African women are super sexy and it’s hard to disagree when you get them naked. Her bubble but was like heaven in my hands as I sucked her tits and she carried on stroking my dick. Once we both were fully naked, I carried on fingering as she stroked me to orgasm.
We silently cleaned up and she carried on her day like nothing happened.
On a second occasion, I got her to undress and sit on my face. I had always watched pussy eating in porn and wanted to perform some on her. I licked and sucked away on her clit for a few minutes after which I convinced her to give me a blowjob. Her blowjob skills were terrible and she basically just gagged on my dick for a couple seconds. At this point I lost all senses and wanted to fuck really bad. I kindly asked if we could try it. To my shock, she asked me to lie down and sat right on top of my dick. Raw, protected and a virgin. I wasn’t even sure I was inside till she slowly started to grind on top of me. The wet motion felt so bad I asked her if we could doggy style. 5 strokes in I felt myself cumming. I pulled out and jacked my load off on her ass thanking God I didn’t cum inside. It all happened so fast I didn’t realise until 3 weeks later that I had lost my virginity in the most emotionless first shags of my life. It was so quick and random, I still related as a virgin afterwards until I met my next (first real partner) I post about here titled “R Shankar sex diary 2.0″
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I really can’t remember now. I believe it wasn’t a bad feeling of negative at all. No hopes and not future. I’d still fuck her today. But It would be more passionate. I have no clue where she is. She left my mums home 6 months after I left for uni
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one ever
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I really got turned on by ladies of black backgrounds. I really find them sexy, gorgeous, smart and would be proud to date/settle with a lady of black/carribean/African background
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Fuck it. Just do it
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? N/a
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? No comments atm
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Amazing work.
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