What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Software Developer
What’s your current relationship status? Getting divorced and dating someone
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Short Vacation Hookup
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was my first time meeting her. She was 34, slim and of Asian ethnicity, very beautiful with little imperfections which I don’t mind.
We met online in a chat App, both in an ending marriage, did some sexting. She lived in Switzerland.
We decided to meet so I traveled there for a hookup. Neither of us pursued romantic feelings.
I was nervous but excited.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at my hotel, talked a bit about how happy we were to finally meet in person. We hugged and touched each other. We didn’t planit exactly. We just wanted to see if the sexual tension was the same in person as online.
I took her out and we walked around Locarno, the city we stayed in. We had lunch together and then went back to my room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was mostly normal fun, we undressed while making out, kissed and performed oral on each other. After making her cum with my tongue I put on a condom and entered her missionary. But she was very wet and with the condom I didn’t feel enough so had some trouble staying hard. When I slipped out she gave me a blowjob to get it hard but I had some trouble. She then took the condom off saying we didn’t need it and continued to blow me. She then moved up and kissed me, we made out and I got hard again, rubbing myself on her. I didn’t want to fuck her without condom since she was not on the pill.
The tension was so high and we both wanted it that I couldn’t resist and entered her bare. She reminded me not to cum inside and we fucked for a while, she came again and I got closer too, a few moments before cumming I pulled out and came all over her body, I even hit her face which she swiped away with a finger and licked it, saying she liked how I tasted.
We cuddled naked for a while before taking a shower together. Then she went back to her husband.
She did anything I asked her too, while the sex was good I missed the feelings I usually have for my partners. It was still great but the difficult relationship situation also hurt a bit. She was kind and understanding. Very eager to please and enjoyed to be pleased.
We didn’t talked as much as I wanted. Communication was a bit difficult and she is a bit to quiet.
The next day we met again, I drove to a nearby mountain where we enjoyed the view and after eating food went back to my hotel again. This time the sex was better, we tried the condom again but removed it as it didn’t work again. This time we switched positions often and I came on her body again. She came during oral and sex. We laid together cuddling naked for a long time. Before she had to leave again we did it a second time, but I didn’t cum again. I can don’t think she came either.
The last day we just met for a short time, we didn’t talk, just got down and fucked again. No condom involved, just raw and pure passion. I came on her back, we showered and then she had to leave. I packed my stuff and drove back to Germany.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had a bit of a bad consciousness because we didn’t use any sort of protection or birth control. That worried me. But it also felt very good. We both wanted more.
I missed the good sex after but knew we didn’t have much of a future as communication didn’t work well. I didn’t like that she was on her phone a lot.
It was a great experience for me and made me more self confident about my sexuality which lead to a couple more sexual encounters.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife, she was very happy about it that I had a good time.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? A great experience, first time sex as a hookup.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It hurt as it was a sign of the ending relationship and I knew I didn’t have a future with the hookup either.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’m much more open to it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It should be more accepted as it is a part of our nature.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great project. Keep up the good work.
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