What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 46
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What country and/or city do you live in? Surprise, Arizona
Highest education received: Not graduated from high school
What’s your occupation? Equipment operator
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation?
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 24


How long ago did this hookup happen? 28 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? I was just 18 years old

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was 18 years old. She was married to my brother and had just had his kid. One day he was out of town for work for a week. She invited me over saying she was scared to be alone.

So that night we were horsing around and I happened to run into the bedroom. She pushed me onto the bed, jumped on my lap, and said: “I’ve got you now.” Then she comes down and kisses me. Later on that night, after kissing, I went to the bedroom and she went to hers. After her kids went to sleep, she asked me to come and lay with her, so I did. Then she grabbed my hand, so I think: it’s time. I started feeling her pussy and she got so riled up, she turned around. “You’re going to fuck me. I’ve been wanting to, I just didn’t know how to ask you,” she said. So that night we did fuck. I was ready to bust a nut in her, but I decided not to and when I pulled out she looked at me and said “what the hell are you doing? Put it back in.” We did it for a couple of hours and the next morning woke up still beside her. She said, “well, we will be doing this more often if you like.” I looked at her and said, “hell yes we will.”

This has been going on for three years now. One night we were fucking in the living room while my brother was asleep. She looked at me and told me she was falling in love and I told her I felt the same. Then I asked her if she would give me a baby. She looked at me with the biggest smile and said: “I thought you would never ask!” Nine months later she had my daughter.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My daughter is now 26 years old. My sister-in-law and I got together after my daughter was born, and I can tell you right now the sex is still good 26 years later.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? My sister-in-law and I fell in love and ended up getting married. She was a damn good lover.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now?  Well, she’s the one that came to me and jumped on me. She loves me to this day.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? She came up to me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was beautiful and the sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She was beautiful and the sex

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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