What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Fuck Buddies
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Starving
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? Just yesterday haha
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this really cute guy in Tinder. I don’t usually use that app because I know most of the guys there only look for sex, which is something that I am weak at. I mean, if I really like the guy and we click, I might come over with him in his place and do stuff. But don’t get me wrong, I am not a slut or a thirsty and/or desperate woman. It’s just that, I just went through a FWB relationship before I met this guy and I was trying to move on that time. As I said, I am weak and that sucks. This guy, whom we’re gonna call James (not his real name) is a really one hell of a hot guy. He’s really a dream guy for me–a total boyfriend material. I like is attitude, his looks, and basically everything about him. After we matched on Tinder, we talked on Viber and then that was the start of everything. Honestly, I have this gut feeling that I’m gonna be into him after we had sex, and turned out, I was right lol.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He instigated the hookup because he told me outright that his purpose why he is on Tinder is to find a fuck buddy. He just broke up with his ex 5 months ago and he told me he is now afraid of trusting and loving someone again so he’s just up for sex. Yes, we planned when and where we’re gonna have sex and yeah.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We became really close after hooking up. Especially when I developed this kind of confidence inside me. I didn’t know I could please a man like him and honestly, he is the first man to make me reach my climax during sex. Of course we had oral sex, which is heavenly because Idk, maybe his tongue is made out of all the good stuff, it just feels good down there. I mean I lose myself whenever he goes down on me. He is a sweet and caring person and he is very much talkative, which I like, and there’s no dull moment when I am with him. We are still seeing each other until now. I know we’re just fuck buddies or whatever shit you wanna call it but I am really starting to develop something serious towards James. Although I am still not sure about this myself, because I am somewhat afraid to fall in love after so many heartbreaks I have been through.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Like I said, we became really close and comfortable with each other after having sex a few times now. I am very much satisfied and happy even though I know that I should not expect anything from him because y’know, we’re just ‘fuck buddies’ or FWB or whatever shit you wanna call it. Deep inside me, I really hope there’d be something more, I really hope that he’d feel something serious for me, too.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my bestfriend in college, she was shocked at first but then she admitted something even much wilder and naughtier than what I did. lol
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His existence. And just plainly everything about him.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He told me not to fall in love with him right from the start.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nah
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex should not be practiced at all. I don’t advice this to the young generation because this is dangerous on so many levels; in almost all aspects in life.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? You guys are awesome
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