Taken by My Neighbor



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Heber, AZ
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self Employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Promiscuous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Taken by My Neighbor

How long ago did this hookup happen? 33 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was our neighbor when we first married. He was a handsome widower in his mid-60s. We were friendly neighbors and would chat often.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He stopped in for morning coffee at my house. It was early and I was in my nightgown. I tried to cover up after answering the door, but he was firm and said I should stay as I was. We had small talk, I refilled his coffee. As I poured his coffee, he rubbed my back, then my ass, and said he would like to see more of me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I did not answer him when he said he wanted to see more, but he continued feeling my ass and then began touching me all over. He sucked my breasts and then slid my panties down from under my nightgown. He played with me, then stuck his tongue in my vagina. He took out his cock and asked me to get on my knees and I did. I blew him for a while and he put me face-down on the kitchen table, spread my legs apart and fucked me. We did this regularly for over a year until we moved away.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt a little guilty but continued to let him have me when my husband was not around.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experimenting with a larger man, who has more experience and stamina.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating on my husband

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I believe I subconsciously sent him signals with the way I dressed and acted around him. I wore tight shorts, tube tops, and on the day he took me I was in a short nightgown and panties. Furthermore, I did not resist when he asked me to remain dressed that way.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had casual sex for many years after that. My husband is now aware and consents. It’s not for everyone.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It interests me greatly. I like knowing I am not alone.

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