Taking a College Freshman’s Virginity



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Taking a College Freshman’s Virginity

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2-3 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner is a slim, African American 18 year old first-semester college freshman, a virgin, who had never even gotten to 3rd base with a guy. She used to play soccer a lot, and boy could you tell

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There’s a notoriously sleazy bar downtown that BARELY checks IDs. It’s a place a lot of people go to hook up. Unbeknownst to her, I had actually gone there to meet up with a different girl, who had to go back with her friends. I saw her dancing alone, asked if she wanted to dance, and within half an hour I was discretely fingering her on the dance floor in a corner, convincing her to come back to my place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The night she came back to my place we only did oral. She didn’t want to lose her virgin it to some guy at a bar, and I respected that. I could see the writing on the wall though, she wanted me to be someone she explored her sexuality with. I told her that I would respect her boundaries and that I would try to make her first sexual experiences as positive as possible. That first night we had a fun time, but we didn’t have sex. I took her out to breakfast the next day. About a week later, she came over to my place, at first we were doing the same stuff, but eventually, I convinced her to have sex. I put a condom on and broke her cherry. It was hard to put someone through that kind of pain, but I knew it had to be done. Once I had, she was moaning with every thrust, calling it “the best pain I could imagine.” I spent both of those nights as a purely selfless lover. It was her first time doing anything sexual, and I wanted it to all be about her having a good time, exploring and discovering her own body.
She stayed the night, and I promised I wasn’t going to ditch her, even if I wasn’t going to be in a committed relationship with her, she seemed very happy with this arrangement. We’ve sent each other some steamy texts over break, and I can’t wait to see her again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We text, and are looking forward to seeing each other again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got to introduce someone to the beauty of sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She didn’t know what the hell she was doing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not yet, we’ll see how this plays out

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish I had had less of it. I still have never had a girlfriend

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Y’all are mad co

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