What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 42
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 19 Years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Both guys were virgins. Let’s call them Mike and Jon. We were all 16 years old at the time and the guys were in good shape. Mike had dark hair and was a little bigger than Jon, who was blonde.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were on our junior class trip to D.C. and were hanging out in their room. We got to talking about sex and they were both impressed that I’d been with a dozen guys already at age 16. I started flirting with both of them after finding out they were both virgins.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Mike went into the bathroom to take a shower and after I heard the shower running, I went inside. He was naked in the shower and was a little shocked to see me. I went up to him in the shower and started giving him a blowjob. I was just going to finish him that way but he decided that he was going to lose his virginity. So I took off my socks and shorts, got into the shower with him, and he bent me over. I had to guide it in and he thrust fast and hard for about 3 minutes before he came inside me. I left him to finish showering and didn’t even bother getting dressed. I walked naked into the room where Jon was laying on the bed watching tv. He was a little upset that I had just had sex with Mike but I told him to take off his pants and he happily did. I gave him a blowjob for a little bit and he insisted on eating me out even though Mike had already gone inside me. He climbed on top of me and started fucking me really fast and hard. To my surprise, I actually had a pretty good orgasm as his dick was much bigger than Mike’s. He lasted a little longer than Mike and eventually came inside me also.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Later that night, we all smoked some weed and they began to argue about who was going to fuck me again. I went back to my room but went back to theirs about an hour later. Mike had fallen asleep so Jon and I went into the bathroom and fucked again. This time he lasted much longer than before.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My boyfriend ended up finding out and was upset but also a little turned on. I told him it was just for fun and I really enjoyed fucking Jon and would do it again if he would let me. He eventually agreed after some coaxing (I let him fuck one of my friends). After that, I continued to fuck Jon for the next 3 months until he started getting clingy. Then I had to break things off.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Taking 2 guys virginity, feeling very sexy, and also getting a fuck buddy out of it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt a little bad about cheating on my then boyfriend and also about hurting Jon’s feelings by not wanting to date him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I realized that casual sex keeps things interesting in a person’s sex life. I had always been somewhat slutty before that but after this experience I always had fuck buddies on the side except I would always tell my boyfriend before I did anything because it felt less like cheating.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like it. I have slowed down as I’ve gotten older, but I still very much like hooking up with no strings attached and just having fun.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good site and the stories are very exciting.
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