What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Doctor
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
The EAR Doctor is IN
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s more like the serious type on the outside. He looks stern and mysterious at first. He was a resident doctor and I was a 3rd year medical student when I first had an encounter with him. He was the one who reviewed exam questions with our class, and can I say how sexy he was, teaching and explaining all those concepts quite well. That was the moment I decided I had a crush on him. Then, a year after, I became his junior intern, and quite frankly, I was the one who approached him, taking interest on one procedure he did with a patient, and tagging along. That was the start, and I also made a move of texting him, in hope of getting his attention and getting close to him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We exchanged text messages for around a month, almost every day. He knew I wasn’t sensitive about ‘sex’ topics since we had a history of joking around with that topic while we were around our senior resident’s company. That’s where it basically began. We texted as friends, then opened up bit by bit until the teasing led to him confessing he was often horny but didn’t look like it, and that he thought I would feel good for him if he had me as a partner. Yes, planning was definitely involved since he suggested spending time at his place during his day off. I made myself available then, too, since I wasn’t on duty that day. H instigated it, but I was more than willing to come over to his place and agreed to the invitation.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started by casually getting ourselves comfortable with being alone at his place. He did his usual tidying up of things, telling me to stay comfortable wherever I wanted. We mainly headed straight to the bedroom since it was a small (but cozy) 1 bedroom unit. We chatted about hospital gossip, etc., and eventually ended up on the bed together. The casual conversation didn’t stop for a while, but when the last topic died, I went for it and kissed him. I was surprised at how willingly he took my mouth against his. I often told him things would probably progress depending on how good a kisser he was. AND HE WAS. So it happened. He fondled me up and down there, and his hand eventually led mine on his hard thing, which I willingly ‘entertained’. I guess the excitement got the best out of him when he didn’t expect me shoving his thing gently inside me, so he came, fast. Then he became flustered, said sorry and told me he wasn’t usually that fast. He said he’s disappointed since he wasn’t able to make me come, but he was a good lover, being horny and all. He still thought of my welfare, and I felt the respect while doing it with him. It ended with him asking me what this was, the thing we had or we did. Long story short, we agreed it was just…happy.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, even though we didn’t have the same duty status, we would text, and secretly meet up and steal kissing moments (in his car). The next day honestly didn’t feel awkward for me. I just thought how exciting it was, and said to myself that I wanted to do it again with him, which did happen like 2 more times. What I wanted, simply, was to get text replies from him, so as not to think I’m just a simple one-night-stand every time we did it. Right now, I feel the same desire, but only sexually, and not romantically.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, It was a sexy kind of motivation for me to hookup with a resident doctor during my internship.
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Doing it with my former crush and establishing this kind of junior-senior relationship. It was sexy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He’s not boyfriend material. Swear. Haha.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It hasn’t changed anything. I still think of casual sex with him as how it is. Casual. I really do miss our moments whenever I think about it though.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? After our last hookup, about a week ago, I realized now that maybe I can really just call myself his fuck buddy. You would know how someone who adores you would look at you, even while having sex, and his gaze wasn’t anything like that. Heck, he seldom looked at me while doing it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Thank you are all the words I could muster since I’m able to share this, not with a particular person, but people I dont know who would just happen to come across my story. The whole thing was so unlike me, and it was short-lived, but I felt human allowing myself to do it.
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