What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? BDSM (sub)
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? +/- 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Tied To The Table
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve been seeing him for almost half a year now and we meet up about once or twice a week. Our sex is so fulfilling to me that I want to start documenting it here to remember.
He’s in his 40s, which of course is quite a bit older than me. I’ve felt attracted to older men before, but this is the first time for me that there’s been this much of an age gap. (Which is also why I don’t talk about him to my family or friends.)
In my opinion (and I think probably many others’) he is very handsome. He has grey hair, no facial hair and is physically fit because he does running and other exercises. He’s about 6″2 / 188cm. I feel SO attracted to him and I love having sex with him. We have sex with BDSM where he plays the Dominant part and I’m the submissive, there is 100% consent.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We usually message a bit throughout the week and see each other once or twice. This has been quite steady for the past months, so planning to meet up goes smoothly. I normally just go over to his house in the evening and then spend the night. This time was a normal weekday and I was going to see him in the evening after going to the gym first.
I felt excited and horny all day, so ready to see him again. Also working out often turns me on. I quickly showered at the gym and then went over to his place.
At his place he let me in and we often first have a cup of tea and just chat about whatever is going on. He sits on the sofa and I sit on the floor between his legs. We were talking for a bit and then I asked if we could put some music, so we put on a playlist on Spotify of Nina Simone.
Then he started undressing me, which felt quite sweet in a way, because he normally orders me to take of my clothes instead of doing it himself. He took my top over my head and then had me stand up to unbutton my jeans and pull it down.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So I’m sitting on the floor in front of him, completely naked, while he is looking at me from the sofa. He takes my hand and leads it to his crotch, where I can feel his boner. He says: ‘That’s what you do to me’. Feeling him get hard turns me on. I feel I blush a little as he continues to compliment me, saying he finds me so sexy. He orders me to take a couple of positions so he can look at my body, I oblige.
He then draws me over his lap, while he is still sitting on the sofa. I know what is coming, he’s going to spank me. This, without failing, always gets me so wet so quickly. He spanks me and I moan softly.
After a couple of minutes of spanking he puts his fingers in my pussy to check and it’s so wet and I can’t help but moan as he fingers me a little bit. By now I’m already so so so horny and I just want for him to fuck me so bad right there and then, but of course he is in control and I do as he decides, so I have to be patient for a bit longer.
He makes me get up and orders me to lay down on my back on the coffee table. He ties my waist and my wrists to the coffee table with three belts and he ties my ankles up to the closet behind the table. So my legs are spread wide and up in the air. He stands in front of me and looks while I lie there helpless, unable to move. My ass and pussy so ready for him to use.
He comes closer and puts some lube on my ass and starts fingering it. With anal stuff I often find it harder not feel self-conscious, but I want to serve him so I try not to think too much and to focus on relaxing.
He then goes and grabs a dildo, which he puts on a wooden stick. I look at it and think that’s not going to fit, but I don’t say that because I want to do well and make him proud. He puts lube on the dildo and very carefully slides it into my ass, which goes surprisingly easy. He also grabbed a magic wand vibrator and put that onto my clit while he was fucking my ass with the dildo. I moan and I’m now actually also really enjoying the anal feeling so horny.
This whole scenario turns me on so much, because it’s so humiliating, me lying there tied to the coffee table being fucked in my ass by a big dildo while the vibrator massages my clit. He’s looking at me, still fully clothed and asking me if I enjoy being used like this. I feel myself getting close to an orgasm and I ask him for permission to cum. He says I can cum for him and I so I do.
After I came he let me rest for a little bit before he started whipping me, first using a flogger. A flogger is one of the less painful tools, but it can still hurt. He whips my stomach, my breasts, the back of my legs that are still up in the air tied to the closet behind. My legs hurt the most because the skin on the back of my legs is stretched in this position. Not everyone might understand this, but pain can feel so good.
He proceeds whipping me with a belt, which is definitely one of the more painful tools. The pain is stingier and heavier.
Next he put some clothes pegs on my nipples, stomach, legs and two on my tongue which really hurt. He got the flogger again and used it to whip all the clothespegs of, really painful, but such a rush. He takes the ones of my nipples and tongue of with his hands.
Then he unties me from the table and bends me over the side of the sofa. He whips my back and my ass more with the flogger and the belt and gave me the vibrator to pleasure myself this time. He tells me I’m allowed to cum again, but I have to say it when I’m cumming. Not long before I’m cumming again.
I’m feeling all this post-orgasm happinness as he turns me around and makes me drop to my knees, he’s standing in front of me. I can see his hard cock through his clothes and I look up at him. I draw his pants and his boxers down with my hands and I can see this is what he wants by his approving nod. I want to take his cock my mouth, but he orders me to first kiss his leg all the way up starting at his foot. I do that on the left side, then on the right side and then finally he puts his cock in my mouth. He throat fucks me for a bit before he drags by my hair to the bedroom. I lick his balls while lying on the bed and then he tells me to go sit on the floor beside the bed while he sits on the edge of the bed. He tells me to jerk him of very slowly with one hand while I use my other hand to gently pull his balls. He says he’s almost cumming and to keep going. I open my mouth, stick out my tongue and look up at him. I beg him for his cum and then I feel it in my mouth, all over my face and down my chest. There was so much! I loved it.
After that we washed up and cuddled up in bed, talking a bit before falling asleep together. And he hadn’t even fucked me this time. I was already looking forward to the next morning.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? More sex in the morning before work, but I feel I already made this story to long to describe all of that as well! I still continue to see him all the time, and still feel very positive about him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, as it’s quite a taboo topic.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Just having amazing sex and BDSM with someone that I trust and feel very attracted to.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Can’t think of anything.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The more I have these BDSM experiences, the more I accept that part of myself.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? For such a long time I felt shame and guilt after I had sex with somebody that I wasn’t in a monogamous relationship with. I’m still not great with not judging myself for casual sex, but it’s slowly getting better. I don’t judge other people about there sex lives, but it’s harder not to judge myself.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? So fun to read about other peoples’ experiences, but I can’t find enough stories with BDSM in it, haha!
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