What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? two nights ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s short (still taller than me) with blonde hair, blue eyes and somewhat toned. I find him quite attractive and social. Very easy to talk to. I only know him from the times we’ve previously hooked up because we met on tinder last month. Just like most guys I find myself casually hooking up with, I would be willing to pursue more but I will settle for this.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He texted me after awhile of causal snapchatting, asking me if I wanted to “come over for a little before [his] roommate gets back”. I said yes, taking the fact that he asked first as a small win. He lives in his fraternity house, so he meets me at the front door and leads me to his room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first time we hooked up was ideal, though it’s been awhile since then. I’ve started to notice, since having more and more practice in sexual endeavors, that most of my partners are impressed with my performance. This sounds like a great thing, but it usually results in my partner cumming quicker than satisfactory. We made out for awhile before I gave him a blowjob, and then had sex for about 3 minutes before he came into the condom. After some pleading, he finally agreed to give me oral and I pretended to orgasm. I left shortly after.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I feel bad about my hookups every day. He had a date function tonight that he invited another girl on…so thats usually how it goes
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friends, normal reaction because I casually hook up with someone almost every night
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I know it hurts my self-esteem even more every time I engage. I believe there are more positive motives from him when in reality I’m just something to cum on.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I make a connection in this fraternity, he’s cute and I can brag about it
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It didn’t satisfy me that particular night
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it makes me feel like i am not worthy of love and i am only desirable for sex
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has negatively affected me, I am currently seeking counseling for this behavior as I believe it was gotten a little out of hand. I want to be involved with more respectable guys
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love what the project is doing!
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