Where Were We?



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? around 100

Where Were We?

How long ago did this hookup happen? a week ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? a reunion with a past hook-up

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We first met about 3 years ago. He was on a business trip in the nearby bigger town, and we hooked up on a gay dating web site. I live in a small town myself and it was a welcome change to get to meet somebody with urban smartness. He’s a native German from NRW area, tall, trimmed, smart, and easy going.
We both had a good time that night, so much so that he visited me the following night again. A good chemistry is rare, and those 2 nights were memorable in that regard… except that I could not manage to cum as hard as I had tried for the 2 consecutive nights. It usually takes a bit of work for me to cum, but that was still very unusual, and that remained one little dent to otherwise satisfying sex.
As with most of such hook-ups, we didn’t really keep in touch. I occasionally re-visited his profile but never really sent a message. And 3 years had passed until…

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was visiting Munich. As usual, I was pretty interested to see what kind of local gay guys were out there, and kept myself logged in on the gay website while I was going through typical tourist’s business and windows shopping. When I checked the site in the afternoon, I found I had received a message, and I instantly recognized the nickname. He seemed not to have realised we had already met before, but upon my reply reminding him the fact, he had no problem to remember that we did meet twice and had a good time then.
He was visiting Munich on business himself and was staying at a hotel not far from where I was at that moment. So I went to visit him at his hotel. We first met at the lobby and had a short chat and coffee. He had aged a bit and put on a bit of weight meanwhile, but otherwise the same smart, confident and easy-going person. Above all, nothing else gives more pleasant boost than when it is clear that the other guy likes and wants you, which he clearly did.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once in his room, we didn’t waste time to get down to making out right away. We took off our clothes without much fuss. He gave me a short blow job while I was sitting on the edge of the bed. I was a bit surprised to find his cock was rather severely crooked at the 1/3 point from the cockhead. I didn’t remember if that was so 3 years ago too, and I wondered what might have happened. But I didn’t mind much as I was to be the top in this case anyway.
Before we proceeded, he went quickly to wash up his ass. It was nice that we didn’t really need much discussion having experienced each other already before. We made out further when he came back to bed, lots of kisses, some blow jobs etc. He’s not the best BJ or the most sensual touch I’ve met, but when the chemistry works, such technical details are just overshadowed by mutual desire.
I then got down to rim and finger his ass. He was still quite tight. 3 years ago, he didn’t take it so easily and needed lots of poppers as I fucked him. Maybe he hadn’t been fucked that often meantime either. Even at our first date, we didn’t say that much, and this time too, not seeing any lube or condom, I just entered him without a question. I like that in sex, not many questions or inhibitions, just embracing the situation based upon the unspoken understanding.
His ass relaxed quickly as I carried on fucking in missionary position. He didn’t seem to need any poppers this time; he might have made more experiences in bottoming after all. Unlike 3 years ago, I felt I could reach the climax this time. I uttered ‘I’m getting close’, to which he replied ‘You’re beautiful!’, a kind of response I wasn’t expecting. But I took it as ‘yes, carry on’ and shoot my load inside him. That seemed to make him ecstatic and he squeezed the ring muscle of his ass around my cock as if to take in every last drop of my sperm. For a bareback top, nothing’s more satisfying than when a bottom takes you in so graciously. And in this case, it felt like I was finally finishing what I couldn’t finish years ago.
While the tip of my cock still stuck in him, I bent my head to give him a blow and hand job. He is usually not much of a loud moaner, but as he was getting close, he became much more expressive, his face showing the sign of ecstatic agony, even turning it to side to bite on the pillow at one point. He finally exploded in my hand and came a handful.
It was a very satisfying session, and we kissed on a long time before we fell asleep in each other’s arms. He snored a bit, but having had a bad sleep previous night and walked around the town all day, I had no problem to catch a short nap.
Upon waking up again, I could feel my cock was getting hard again, rubbing against his thigh. He then got down to suck it to full erection, and started to ride my cock. His ass was still wet inside, so we didn’t even need a lot of saliva. After sometime, he went down on his all fours, and without a word I just got around and carried on fucking him doggy. I was horny, but then I could feel I wouldn’t be able to cum again this time. So he finished by wanking himself sitting on his knees whilst I was fingering his ass.
Because he had a concert to catch up that evening, the rest was swift; quick shower, dressing up, and good bye. But all the while, we saw from each other that we had enjoyed our time very much. I hate it when sex, even as a short hook-up, turns into a mechanical business of fuck, cum and go. We’re all lonely and fragile creatures in the world, and there’s no reason to go suddenly cold just because one came and the business was done. Especially when life presented you with such an unexpected gift of reunion… So we suitably bid each other a good bye with warm hugs and kisses.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He sent me a message that night, and we chatted a bit, basically hoping for another reunion soon. That would be nice if it happens, but honestly I don’t have a high hope considering him being a busy business man traveling all the time and I living in a small town far away from any big town. But then this unexpected reunion came about, so who knows what may happen again in the future?

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? nobody

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the unexpected surprise ending up with a satisfying pleasure.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? having not much of prospect to repeating it again soon.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I’ve been anyway always feel very grateful when life presents an unexpected surprise, which, in this case, was the hook-up. I’m sure we all could do with a bit more of them.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m not a moralist when it comes to sex. I find it an excellent way to meet people and get to know them. We all have to take off or at least lower the usual social mask and barrier in sex, and I find it fascinating to see all these different people’s lust, obsession, guilt, energy, self-image etc. which I would not have in other context.
Maybe I could be more lighter-hearted about casual sex because I’m gay – one, it’s much more prevalent in the gay subculture, two, gay relationship doesn’t have to follow the conventional straight model, and three, it rarely involves the complex issue of potential pregnancy, family and children. Of course, gay or straight, one still has to be conscious and responsible with what one does regarding health issues and basic courtesy towards other human being. But at the very basic level, I think sex is a wonderful and very interesting way of social interaction.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s an interesting idea. The only risk is that it turning into some porn story database, where people write their fantasy rather than reality.

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