Wine and Tinder

by amber

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Wine and Tinder

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, tan, and had a sexy Caribbean accent. Bomb brown eyes and very sensual. Matched with him on tinder about a week or so prior and when I was drinking wine solo decided to message him back. We met up 30 mins later at some bar and chatted over some drinks. I thought he was sexy as hell and when he asked to go back to his place i didn’t hesitate.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning involved we were very spontaneous that night.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first time we met we ended up going to his place and went straight into kissing and clothes came off immediately. Let me stop here and say that it was almost 6 years since I had sex and the first time it was casual. I was very loosened up and very comfortable with him. He had a great strong body and at first there was just a lot of naked kissing. At one point I stopped and told him he wasn’t going to get intercourse, of course he asked why. (guys – smh). I told him I was on my monthly so he just asked for head, which I enjoyed more than I thought I would. He took me to my car that I left at the bar. The ride to my car was a bit awkward, he told me to call him whenever I’m free. Fast forward a few days, he texted me but I was busy so we didn’t meet up. Later that week I texted him, went over to his house and he fucked me sooo good, good enough that I saved his number and we sporadically see (read: fuck) each other. He didn’t know how long it was since I last had sex, and when he entered me he said I was really tight and asked how long its been since I had sex. I told him to guess and he said 3 months, lol. I never told him it was 6 years but I might now.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had no expectation, we have a good fuck buddy relationship. I want something more emotional but not with him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told too many people. Lesson learned, only talk about hookups with your friends that are also freaks.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Feeling powerful, it’s liberating to causally hook up and not feel shamed.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish he focused on pleasing me more.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, more for casual. Realized its not a big deal.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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