Without The Buddy Part

by TalkNerdytoMe

Gender: Female
Age: 38
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Seattle wa
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Tech Support
Relationship status: Married but open
Religious affiliation: Agnostic/other
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bi poly open group sacred sexuality
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Without The Buddy Part

How long ago did this hookup happen? About 3 yrs

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was short but geeky-cute. He had really long flaming red hair.  Overall normal build with a tummy.  Glasses and a cute goatee.  Nice but dirty sense of humor.  Obsessed with sex, just like me!

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He answered a craigslist ad I had put up asking for people to hang out with and possibly more.  I was up front about being married and poly.  We progressed pretty quickly to sex, despite his mono girlfriend.  He suggested a movie, a toke and a hang.  I don’t remember the movie. We sat in my car, smoked and chatted.  Then we chatted through IM…a lot.  I’m pretty open with my sexuality and at the time was sex-starved and horny.  We talked about sex a lot…our best experiences, turnons, favorite fantasies.  I’d have to say his cock instigated it. I’d already given him an IM blowjob, and when we would get stoned he was always pitching an impressive tent. Eventually I had to touch it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first time we had sex was at a loading dock behind a shopping area late at night.  We had a lot of outdoor hookups because at first neither of us could host.  Then we kept doing it because we liked the thrill.  Even being caught once by a police officer and once by a security guard didn’t stop us.  It was always his cock in my pussy, sometimes in my mouth. He touched my breasts or clit a little sometimes but I rarely needed any help being ready and often there wasn’t room for much foreplay.  His cock felt amazing inside me. I think it was shaped just right, with a slight curve. We mostly did doggie and in that position he hit my gspot just right.  The sex was almost always fantastic. However, he was always fussing about us being seen together, and never wanted to cuddle or perform oral on me.  Eventually I felt like I wasn’t getting what I wanted even though I was willing to stay friends. I broke up with him after taking a good look in the mirror and realizing I needed the room in my life to find something that met my needs better.  To this day I don’t know if he just wanted my body or didn’t want to risk getting close or couldn’t deal with the fact that I’m married.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had soooo many orgasms. Over and over and over.  He loved his cock being milked by my pussy as I would roll through dozens of orgasms. He sometimes took a long time to climax (sometimes longer than I could stay in position, then I finished him with my mouth or hand) but he usually came at least once and often twice. He had an impressive amount of stamina.  I still miss that and the incredible fit and hardness of his cock.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We discussed history and status. We got tested. We used condoms at first. Then I got on the pill and got permission from hubby to go bare. That was a mistake as I grew addicted to the feeling of his hot load inside me.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was dying for sex at that point. His constant erections around me were just too big of a temptation. I knew  we were compatible sexually as we’d discussed it a lot.  We were both kinky, horny, geeky, stoners….it just made sense. Our bodies fit.  It felt natural and good (even though we were cheating on his long distance girlfriend).

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We almost always got stoned. Sometimes drunk.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we broke up we stayed in touch by IM. I still consider him a friend and I’d probably still fuck him occasionally if it weren’t for his mono girlfriend (different girl, same story).  We still cyber some and exchange videos/audio.  The episode with him helped me clarify what I wanted. Amazing cock was not enough. If he’d given me the comfort and affection I wanted, I might never have met my current BF. So it worked out for the best.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. My husband of course. The consensus was I shouldn’t have put up with him as long as I did.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes. We were both always into it despite the challenges.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I only regret not getting clarity earlier on why it wasn’t working for me.  Also I regret going bare.  It made it so much harder to stop.  I had an addiction that was hard to break. The way he kept me at arms length but gave me the dominance I craved and just enough approval kept me coming back when I should have quit.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best:  crazy amazing twisted outdoor passionate doggie style fucking.
Worst:  feeling the letdown of powerful afterglow I couldn’t take the time to enjoy

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? After this experience, I am somewhat disillusioned with casual sex. It doesn’t have to mean no tenderness or affection but that is how many people do it. I find that sad.

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