Committed But Free

by DirtyDrForGood

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mississippi
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Slut Lover
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Approximately 12 or 13
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Committed But Free

How long ago did this hookup happen? About 13 years.

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group Sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? At the time, it was my girlfriend and her friend from work.

Girlfriend: White/Latina, plus-size but not obese. She was curvy but proportionate with a lovely tan. We had been dating about 4 months and were having sex regularly. We met at a night club, and she was the one that approached me.

The friend from her work: A country white girl. She was skinny and kinda pale but cute. I never had met her before but trusted my girlfriend’s judgment. Just before the hookup, I felt great about her. Obviously, she wanted to have sex with me based off what my girlfriend had told/showed her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, wifey/gf and I watched porn often together, and while watching one day, she mentioned she once kissed a girl but wanted to do more. It led to talk about a fmf threesome. So after the initial talk, she mentioned that she would talk to this one girl from work and see what happened. Well I got off work one day and she told me she was visiting a friend and won’t be home for a while and that I should come to this friend’s house and gave me directions. As I arrived, she said to come in, and the door was already open. As I walked in, my girlfriend and the friend were both sitting there butt naked on the couch bed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I didn’t hesitate for too long after the initial shock. I just got naked and hopped in the bed. There was just talk first but soon thereafter, my girlfriend started guiding her friend to play with my dick while she was rubbing her friend’s pussy. Eventually, my girlfriend told her friend to just enjoy and do whatever. At this point, the friend spit on her hand and stroked my dick a bit before straddling me and skidding my dick inside her. She rode me for a while and made out with my girlfriend. My girlfriend periodically leaned down to make out with me then eventually she encouraged her friend to make out with me. It was sooo nice…a new girl riding my dick as my girl enjoyed the show. They took turns having sex with me, and it was amazing. Surprisingly, my girlfriend wanted me to cum while fucking the friend. So I did, but I pulled out and came on her belly. My girlfriend licked it off her afterwards.

Then, we all laid there in amazement and talked for a bit, but then started talking about them getting their orgasm. The friend was saying how she never has one with guys and has them when using her toys. My girlfriend told her she just hasn’t had the right guy. The friend swore up and down that she couldn’t have an orgasm via oral. My girlfriend told her to give me a chance. In no time, I gave her an amazing orgasm. She was in shock and damn near “in love.” I absolutely loved the experience. There was oral all three ways (they went down on one another also), and only vaginal penetration. My girlfriend loved the entire experience during and after. The friend was enjoyable because it was a new pussy. She was too skinny for my preference, but I would not say no if she wanted it. We talked about future hookups, and this new journey we were planning to keep going. When we were about to leave, a future fmf was proposed by the friend, but excluding me, but it would be her and a future bf with my gf. I will elaborate in another story.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? My girlfriend was much better as we recounted the story of the threesome. We loved it. We planned to do it many more times in the future, but it never happened again as a threesome. The friend borrowed me from my girlfriend for sex a couple of times though. And we had a little naughty public fun. The friend planted an idea in my girlfriend’s mind that led to other stuff. But I will share that later. Anyways, we are still friends with the girl after losing touch for some years. I would love to have sex with her again now since she put on more weight.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve shared it with many people. Guys were jealous that I had a threesome with my girl and another girl. Girls were weirded out that my girl was so open.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? What it led to honestly. But about the hookup itself, the stud feeling of two girls enjoying me at the same time.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Hmm…she was just too skinny for optimal pleasure.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Hell yes.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It opened my relationship to promiscuity that led to amazing fun.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. I believe everyone that desires it should enjoy it….even when it committed relationships. The most appealing females are those that openly enjoy casual sex. Society needs to let sex enjoyment be what it is for each individual person.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love the project and love Dr. Vrangalova’s perspective.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!