by Moe
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 36
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
MMF Threesome with my Brother’s Friend
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 days
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had two partners, my boyfriend and a third we found on a dating app. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and we are very much in love. He means the world to me and I anticipate we will be engaged by the end of 2017! Ironically enough, when searching for a third, my boyfriend, K, liked this guys profile and started talking to him when I then realized that this guy, C, and I had been my brother’s childhood friend. It had been years since I talked to him so It was kinda weird starting a conversation with him about having a threesome! I was really nervous to meet up with him, but one night I got horny and told him to come over to my boyfriend and my place after I got off work. This was our first threesome with him, though we had had 2 other threesomes before this.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I got this urge one night after a few days of not being sure about getting with C or not. While I was working I started some flirty messages with C that my boyfriend K chimed in on. Then about 2 hours later C came over to our house very late that night once I got off work. K and I planned on having a threesome but we didn’t really plan the finer details of how we would all position ourselves or even how we’d start. We were all a little nervous so we each took a 420 hit to help us relax. We played strip poker and then once we were all naked we awkwardly started a movie.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As we were naked watching the movie, K begin touching me (as I was lying in the middle of the men) which I knew meant he watched me to touch C. As he got hard in my hand, C and I began to kiss as K sucked on my nipples. We did many different positions, but I wanted to focus on my boyfriend giving C head because I know how much he misses giving head. C also ate me out and fucked me in various ways while I gave K head. K gave C anal while C tried to fuck me from behind but it comically turned out to be two men having anal on top of me squishing me into the bed. We had a good laugh about that later. During sex, I had a really good time. Having two people pleasuring me was great and I enjoyed seeing my boyfriend with a man as I know I can never give him things a man can. It was also really sexy it being a new experience and being with someone other than K. I love K, but we sometimes have the same sex because we know each other so well, so it was exciting to experience some new tricks from a different partner. C was also very good at oral on me and he knew how to hit my G-spot with his fingers. Sadly, even though I came many times, both guys had to stop before they came cuz we had been going at it for over an hour and we were exhausted. I think 420 had played a large part in them not orgasming even though they both wanted to badly.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After sex, we all melted into the bed, C went into the guest room to sleep. That night K told me how upset he was that we couldn’t make C cum, since C was (in K’s words) the hottest guy he’d ever been with. We both woke up the next morning and K next to me was obviously horny, but I had to go walk a friends dog. So K asked me if we could try to get everyone to cum when I got back. I was hesitant, especially cuz I thought my boyfriend would not be able to wait to fuck C before I got back. Luckily, he did and when I got home that morning we had sex with C again but this time everyone came and it was glorious! C then promptly left and I expected to not hear from him again. Plus I wasn’t sure if I wanted to see him again. K and C kept texting, with me seeing K end of it, and we actually still talk with him and had another threesome with him a week later.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only my boyfriend, I don’t expect that I’ll share this with anyone I know as I don’t want the people around me thinking differently of me and my relationship knowing that we occasionally mix up our sex life with a third.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting eaten out by C felt incredible, and overall I came much more than usual. Also, I really enjoyed hearing K and C making noises of pleasure because I could tell how much they were enjoying it too.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I have a chronic bladder condition that occasionally causes pain during sex, especially if it is lasting a while. Towards the end, and some positions in the middle I experienced some pain. My boyfriend knows about this condition and he is normally careful to not hurt me but C did not know about this, and I wasn’t comfortable during sex to tell him about it or to say I was in pain. Luckily 420 helps me dull the pain so I was able to move past it to the next position. I was probably only in pain 10% of the time, as the rest was immense pleasure.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel more confident in myself and my relationship feels stronger since K and I have discussed our feeling on it and both feel that having a threesome draws us closer as we appreciate what we have in each other more. K and I thrive on open communication and I don’t think having threesomes with him could work if we weren’t able to talk honestly and openly with each other.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Don’t knock it until you try it. I had had two threesomes before my relationship with K and I always judged those couples and assumed they were just doing it because they couldn’t satisfy each other anymore. I figured they were an unhappy and unhealthy couple that were not going to work out. Though after having occasional threesomes with my partner has changed my opinion completely. We are a very strong couple and we love each other unconditionally. We just know that we are both bisexual and there are some things sexually that our current partners cant give us. For us, threesomes don’t degrade our relationship because I have no want for an alternative boyfriend. I don’t want to date a female and he doesn’t want to date a man, though we sometimes do miss the sexual parts of mm and ff sex so we mix up our sex life by inviting a third. We have rules about how we do it and we share all communication with the potential partners we are talking to. And plus it spices up our sex life even after the encounter because we appreciate each other more and we can fantasize together.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is acceptable as long as all parties evolved communicate and have the same expectations. Casual Sex played a large role for me a few years ago when that’s all the sex I had. I mistakenly thought that casual sex was how to start a relationship or have a good ending to a first date, though in my experience I found that the men I was hooking up with were only interested in casual sex and not continuing a relationship going forward. Because of this I often felt dirty and guilty the next day. Though I feel that with more communication my problems could have been resolved. I wish it wasn’t such a taboo topic in society, as I feel like if people knew I’ve slept with at least 35 different people their opinion on me would change dramatically.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really like the idea. I would not tell anyone close to me this story of my threesome especially not with this much detail. Though I feel therapeutic to write it down and have my story be told even if no one knows who I am.
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