My First Cock

 

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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 64
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Technology
What’s your current relationship status? Divorced. Living with one woman, seriously involved with another.
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? heteroflexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 80
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

My First Cock

How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was regularly seeing an also married co-worker. We worked evenings, and she would often give me blowjobs during breaks. We often met at her or another friend’s apartment for sex. She did some swinging with her husband, but our relationship was purely cheating. She was a BBW with very nice tits and she liked variety, which means I was hardly the only man she was cheating with.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? During a blowjob break at work, while sucking my cock, she asked if I would enjoy a threesome with her and another guy she’d just started seeing. I said sure! She looked a bit worried and then asked if him being bi would be a problem? I said no, but the question piqued my interest. We arranged to meet at her apartment a few days later. I’d had FFM threesomes with my then wife, and some foursomes, but no MMF and certainly no M/M bi activity (F/F bi was always a part of those encounters).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At the agreed time, I went to her apartment. She and the new guy were already naked and playing around. I got undressed and we started concentrating on her, alternating licking her clit and fucking her. She always had a cock in her mouth and usually one in her pussy. She came many, many times. I had just finished licking her to another orgasm when he asked if he could suck my cock. I said sure and she observed the process with interest. Frankly, she was a much better cocksucker. After a bit, I motioned to him to switch. He was the perfect starter cock: about six inches, but not very thick. He was soft when I started but quickly became fully erect. At first, I concentrated on the head of his cock and gently stroked his rather small balls. I found I could easily take all of him and would fuck him with my mouth, then go back to sucking on the head. She was playing with her clit and watching all of this for a while, but I sensed she was feeling left out. I suggested we attend to her again and she started by sucking me while he fucked her to his orgasm. I came in her mouth soon after that and we took showers and left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I don’t think the M/M action really was a big plus for her, but I liked it immensely and have sucked cock occasionally since then. In retrospect, I wish I had pursued more sex with this guy. He moved out of town shortly thereafter and we were unable to repeat the threesome. The size of his cock made me want to have him fuck me anally as well as orally. I’ve never had that desire with any other male partners, but I do like dildo play, so who knows if that might have changed my tastes.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Almost no one as I was afraid of disapproval because of the M/M sex.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I found I enjoyed sucking cock but was not ‘gay’ because if it.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I wasn’t confident enough to pursue more of a relationship with this guy, and experiment with him more. It was a long time before I found another male partner to play with.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It broadened my horizons immensely.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? For most folks, sex is too loaded a topic for the casual to really apply. I wish that more people could see that sex is genuinely fun and should be part of more friendships without the layers of complexity that it currently brings.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’ve enjoyed reading here, your newsletter, and I enjoyed writing this account.

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