Three Way

 

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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 71
What’s your race/ethnicity? Caucasian Native American mix
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Salt Lake City Utah USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Electronic Technician, Computer Field Service, Electro-Mechanic, Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual but Strongly Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Three Way

How long ago did this hookup happen? About 40 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Mate Swapping

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Mike stood about 5 ft. 5, moderate build, and I would say he was fairly handsome.
Katy was about 5 ft. slender but not skinny build, moderately beautiful with long hair.
Sue (my wife) Very Beautiful, slender Long Brunet hair double D Brest

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The meeting has a long story:
We had placed a “couch for sale” ad in the local paper. About a week later when I came home my wife (Using ‘Sue” for her name) said this guy called about the couch. He had asked a lot of questions. She said, “He asked a strange question about the couch.” He asked, “Had she had sex on the couch.” She answers yes. She asked if he was interested in the couch. The reply was “I have to think about it.” This same thing happened about a week later. Both calls were in the afternoon while I was at work. There were questions about sex on the couch the second time. The next week I had just arrived home from work. The Sue was cooking dinner. The phone rang, it was the couch guy. He wanted to come over about the couch. I asked Sue if she wanted him to come over. The grin on her face and the gleam in her eyes told me she did want him to come over. Sue handed me the phone and told me to make arrangements. As soon as I said hello he hung up. I had figured he was coming over for sex and did not want the husband around.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? For a few days I could not get Sue’s facial and expression out of my mind. I think Sue knew he was planning sexual action. That look said a lot. It was not the look of someone happy to sell the couch.
I felt this was a good time to open the question of “Mate Swapping.” I asked Sue if she would like to try mate swapping. I was watching her face for a reaction. Slowly a big smile and glowing grin, the same one when I asked if she wanted the couch guy to come over, returned.
She said she did not know where to start. I said I know of a bulletin board for just such connections. I drafted up a note indicating that we were available for swapping. Sue read the note and approved. I posted it on the bulletin board. We had a response in a week or so. The couple (Mike and Katy – not real names) contacted us. We made arrangements to meet at our place on Friday night. Mike.
Mike stood about 5 ft. 5, moderate build, and I would say he was fairly handsome. His penis was about 10 inches long and quite thick.
Katy was about 5 ft. slender but not skinny build, moderately beautiful with long hair.
After a little conversation, Sue, Me, and Mike headed to the bedroom. The three of us had sex for a while.
The first night Katy was too tired for any action so she slept on the couch while the three of us had sex.
Next two Fridays we did the same thing. Katy was still not a part of the action.
The next Friday Sue and Mike had sex while Katy and I were having sex all in the same bed. I looked over at Sue a few times and thought how sexy she was looking. I had enjoyed the three-way action but this was a much more enjoyable evening.
On all four occasions Sue and I had sex after they left. I found Sue to be sexier and more desirable after she had sex with another man. I would have cared if she had sex with other men as long as she admitted it—no details required.
About three months later I was ready for another swapping with someone different. This is when Sue said she was jealous of my sex with Katy. This is not the first time of her double standard was expressed. In this case she could have sex with anybody but I had better not have sex with anyone other than her.
Many years after this three-way I was talking to Sue about having another swapping or swinger’s event. I used reference to the above event. Sue appeared to like the three-way so I felt another would OK with her or even her having an affair. We had fallen into the same old dull routine and I wanted to expand my experience and enjoyment. I felt she should have the same opportunity. I stated that after she had sex with another man I found her much more desirable and much sexier. She states “it was fun but did not want to do that again.” Sue also adds it was not jealousy but the fact “that she felt I was a better catch.”

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I was happy and ready for another. I did not expect additional meetings with Mike and Katy. I did hope for more swinging action in the future with other persons/couples.
I remember both Katy and Mike to this day with fond memories. I would like to meet with them again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) tubal ligation vasectomy no protection taken

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident, Boredom, I was hoping to have fun and explore other sexual contacts. I expected there would be a time for me with both women. I would like to experience some gay action. I would also like a three-way with two women. I hoped this would lead to open relationships for both Sue and me. The real reason for me was to learn new things and have some pleasure. There was no pressure.

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No One

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Lots of new experiences, I found out that watching my wife have sex with another man made her more desirable and many times sexier. Jealousy was not an issue and I could handle any affair she wanted. I have told Sue she can have as many affairs as she wants (male or female) just don’t hide the affair. I will not ask any questions other than was the hookup legal and consensual.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I lost the chance to explore my gay side.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I finally came to terms with feelings I had when I was between 10 and 20 years old. This was a bad time for me and sexual matters – none—and a problem with gender identity.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This was extremely positive in many ways. I was able to open up to my wife of 15 years about problems I had at the time

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think the attitude toward casual sex is changing for the better. Not sure when these changes happened but think they started back in the 1960s. A lot more needs to change mainly with acceptance of gender identity and mixed race couples.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like what the causal project is doing.

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