1st Affair



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Indian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Franciso
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Management Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? ~40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

1st Affair

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was married, in her early 50s I believe. Reasonably good looking, not thin but not fat, probably around 5’2″. I had been traveling to the Seattle area regularly and was hanging out at a bar down the street from my hotel. She ended up sitting next to me. I had never had an affair in 17 years of marriage but had thought about it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I suppose she instigated it though I was pretty interested. After some chatting and flirting she leaned in and told me she had an open marriage and enjoyed getting together with other men. She mentioned that her husband was traveling but that she had also done threesomes (MMF) with him there. We chatted a bit more and headed over to my hotel room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We pretty quickly got into it when we got into my room. We started making out while standing up. She started stroking my cock and pretty quickly was on her knees undoing my belt, pulling down my pants, and pulling my cock out of my boxer briefs. It was pretty hot. I let this go on for a bit and then got her up, took off her dress, and pretty quickly removed her black bra and matching panties. I kind of devoured her, starting at her neck, working my way down to her breasts and then her pussy. We started off missionary, then I turned her over. I love doggy style, and I made sure to smacked her womanly ass. Then I came. We pulled apart, talked a bit and then started again. It ended with me finally pulling out, taking off the condom, and her blowing me until I came. She then left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She had my number but never contacted me. I was a bit surprised how quickly and easily it came together and also how I enjoyed the sex without really wanting anything else. I’m not particularly disappointed that she didn’t contact me. Though I wouldn’t have minded hooking up again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was easy with no commitment

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me realize that I enjoyed casual sex and that it could be easy at times to engage in.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It took me a while to engage in it. I’m pleased that women are more open to engaging in casual sex

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? very interesting and useful project

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