27 Year Old Virgin

by Katie

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Auckland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

27 Year Old Virgin

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s a sexy looking dark skinned, dark eyed, dark haired man .. said he’s 30. We started talking (cyber sexing) through a dating site, and after a few weeks met at his house in person. I was so scared going to meet him as it was for one reason and one reason only… to lose my virginity. He knew we were going to fuck but didn’t know it was my first time

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He let me in and we started kissing immediately

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I gave him a bj (it was my first) and my mouth was soo dry, he said it was good but I didn’t believe him. He went down on me, it was ok but being so nervous I couldn’t relax. Then we just did it. I wanted him to use a condom but didn’t ask and he didn’t bring it up. The whole thing was good, especially when he came in me!

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was shocked I’d done it but so happy. Also elated he hadn’t turned out to be a cat fisher or ax murderer.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No One

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? We hooked up 2 more times basic repeat of first time but less nervous. Then got message on dating app from him saying I needed a sti check as he has one. I ended up fine physically but mentally a bit hurt

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The sti scare

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Love casual sex… do it often now

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it… gave me the confidence I needed

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