Location: South Africa
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Business Owner
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Straight (mostly)
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
3 Minute American Male Athlete/Actor/Model
How long ago did this hookup happen? four years ago
How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was working at a clothing store in the summer, he came in to try on some vests. He had that whole African-American mixed raced guy swagger that real Africans only see in movies, so he was interesting to me.
He played it cool while talking about himself and taking his time in assessing how the vests would make his bulky chest seem even more ominous while trying them on in a mirror right in the middle of store instead of the changing room. His wing man (a white guy) played him up nicely and although he was obvious in his self promoting demeanour I found him fascinating, physically attractive due to his athletic build and well moisturised skin. I was curious.
He seemed like the type of guy who would take you powerfully, overwhelm you, consume you with masculinity, and give you the type of strong and heaving orgasm you don’t often get.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went on a date, he picked me up on a vespa bike, he bragged about himself and life in California as though treating my African ears to a great sensory delight. I indulged him with big smiles and felt almost guilty of my typical objectification of him. I’m figuring he was doing the same to me, I’d never before been with a man who was as concerned with ‘notches on his belt’. I was bored and lonely at the time, so I continued to humour it.
We went back to his upmarket rental apartment in one the wealthiest neighbourhoods in town and he said ”I’m not an office guy, if I have the internet I can make money.” I just said ”OK” not wanting to know any more.
He put on a movie, some sweat pants, got us drinks and asked me to come cuddle. I was reluctant and instead criticised the lame movie he chose and he agreed, admitting it was a weak choice for being an actor. It was truly terrible, his friend was there too, so we all ended up making fun of the cheesy wannabe twilight film.
After a few hours we went up to his bedroom, talked for a bit then he made moves. He was really tall and strong so it was kind of fun at first (the first 30 seconds that is). He fumbled a bit, kissed me softly, took my clothes off quickly, and shoved his teeny weeny itty bitty penis in me, pumped for about 3 minutes, then rolled over super exhausted and announced he was going to take a nap.
Needless to say I was bummed the F*** out! All that build up and this symbol of masculinity, male beauty, and form, all just a plastic show.
The weeks that followed after that I ignored him. One night at 3 am he showed up at my door, drunk. I didn’t open.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? No orgasm. He was emotionally distant and selfish. Terrible lover.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Used a condom, talked a bit about the pros of safe sex. We were on the same, always a condom policy.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Boredom and loneliness
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Just wine, a glass each.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I ignored him, he was utterly disappointing. Now it’s a funny story, don’t feel anything for the person.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they laughed and said ‘Ah Americans!’
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual and wanted
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets in doing it. Love that I have the experience.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was a great lesson in not to choose a fuck buddy/partner/one night stand on physical build.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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