What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 130
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none


How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this girl in Vienna. I was there for a few days, and I was staying with someone else I was hooking up with at the time. But that’s a whole different story. That evening I was due to meet up with another woman that I have hooked up with before. She had a hotel room, but she wasn’t around until midnight due to work. So, I jumped on Tinder to entertain myself for the evening because I told the original woman I was staying with that I was out for the night. We met in central Vienna, and when I first met her, I smiled to myself. She was petite and really cute, which is not my usual type, but she was hot.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went for a drink; I had a beer, and she had a soft drink. Then, we went for ice cream and a walk. It was around 8 pm, and I proposed that she came back to the bar in my hotel. We got there to only find out it was closed, so we went up to my room and wasted no time.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She was tiny, so I threw her around a bit. I was the first stranger she had slept with and had only two guys previously, so I was an experiment. She had also never given a blowjob, and she specified that she didn’t give me one. She was very tight and just loved holding her legs back behind her head saying, “Fuck me harder.” I went down on her a bit, then fucked her some more.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Straight after she left my hotel, I went to go and see the woman I was meant to meet that evening. However, we didn’t sleep together because we were both worn out. We just spooned, so I woke up with her. But as for the hook up in question, I felt great about it. Who doesn’t like fucking hot girls?

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes,’ but I didn’t give a ‘no.’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes,’ but didn’t give a ‘no.’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told some of my friends because it turned out that I slept with seven women in seven days that week.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions to this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was really attracted to her so it felt good.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I didn’t get to see her again.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had a lot of casual sex in my life. I’m in a relationship now with a great woman, and that coincided with me falling out of love with random hookups and the constant grind of finding new partners. It is addictive but also leaves you a little empty. When I was younger, I always wanted to sleep with a hundred women, and now that I have, it’s less interesting. However, there is always that urge to go back to it even though my relationship is relatively fresh. I love flirting, and people seem to like flirting with me, so it’s a conscious effort not to do anything beyond the line.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it

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