What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Design
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? ~30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Today
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We matched on tinder that afternoon and started to chat. Her profile was a little light on for detail, one of the things displayed was a photo of a neon sign talking about strength & confidence. She was an Indian woman, traveled and lived in the UK for about 20 years. Very articulate, somewhat cultured, well versed, a general practitioner. She was a little heavier than I usually find attractive however she had confidence about her, a positivity and carried her weight well. In her early 40’s She spoke to me with the messages as if to be a little vague and unassuming. She was spoiling herself to a day at a Spa & nice hotel, which I completely got. It’s good to be able to enjoy the fine things in life sometimes.
She suggested I could come have dinner or a drink, I was a little hesitant but my current mindset is meeting people and trying new things so I said yes, but it would have to be a little later in the evening as I had other commitments to attend to first.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met downstairs at the restaurant, she was there by herself in a cocktail dress which showed her shape nicely. We drank and chatted until it closed and then went to the bar around the other side of the building. I was a little underdressed for the occasion her she looked great so I complimented her on that to she looked back at me & smiled saying thank you. After the next drink, it was quite late and it was about time for me to move. I asked if she would let me give her a kiss somewhere quiet to which she suggested I come up to the room with her.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed & made out as we undressed each other. She seemed calm & in control of what was happening as well as pleased that I was there with her. We explored each other’s bodies on the bed touching each other all over. She told me she was highly orgasmic and loud, I found this a refreshing admission. I guessed I was now part of this ‘treat yourself’ evening she was having and I said I’d be happy to fulfill any fantasies or requests she had, which she didn’t respond to with any particular thing that I either should or should not do.
We had sex, oral, anal play all night. I don’t think I’ve ever had a woman orgasm so much and with such vigor either. The noise she made was incredible, I was in no doubt when she was building and when she was cumming. There was a definite confidence boost to know it was me doing that for someone else.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We got breakfast downstairs and chatted some more. Some of the conversations became a little esoteric sometimes. There was also an executive lounge we sat in for a while drinking coffee. We left to check out, she had actually paid for everything for our time together, drinks, food, everything. I had offered to pay some but she very politely refused. I take it that she had had a good evening with me, else she would have shown me the door far earlier on if it had even got to that point. We traded personal numbers and broached the topic of meeting up again next I was in town.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one yet, a lot of friends would probably think I make a lot of stories about my sex life up
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex was long & enjoyable. Lots of orgasms for everyone
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Did feel and still does feel a little hollow.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Just with where my head & mindset is right now this was good. It showed me a side of myself that wasn’t strictly domineering & about conquest (this said, it has never been about that in the traditional sense) It was a much calmer affair. Also good to have a common element with someone re sex for the sake of good sex
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I accidentally came across the same woman with different pictures on another profile today under a different name. That makes me think twice about the person I was with now. Even though it was consenting adults and everyone was safe, now I don’t know what to trust. Not sure what to think of this
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would normally have something to say on this point, but not this time
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting way to spend time reading stories
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