A Long Time Coming



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? College work-study
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Attracted to both men and women, but would only actually date a woman
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Long Time Coming

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Lumberjack-looking guy, about 5’9, nice brown hair and a reddish beard, very nice body (especially his arms). I thought he was hot as soon as I got this job and because we all have to live together for the duration (7 weeks) I figured why not flirt a bit? We’re stuck in the middle of the woods for work so there’s not many other options.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was lots of flirting on my end, some flirting from his end too but he didn’t want to come on too strong as there’s a bit of an age difference between us (he’s 21. He didn’t want to seem creepy. We all went over to our boss’s house once or twice a week to hang out and drink, and he got really drunk along with everyone else while I only had a beer or two. Towards the end of the night, he looked at me and asked: “So what are you after?” I gave him an eyebrow wiggle and after that he started rubbing my thigh under the table and asked if I wanted to meet him at the unused cabin on our property after the party. Of course, I said yes and the rest was history.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did mostly vaginal with a bit of oral. I was on the tail end of my period but he didn’t mind which was nice, he even went down on me despite it and it was some of the best sex I’ve ever had even though he was really drunk and couldn’t get fully hard. He was really nice and sweet but also really good at dirty-talk which was awesome! It went on for about 2-3 hours until we pretty much fell asleep on top of each other and we slept until about 5 am in this tiny bunk bed before waking up to fool around some more.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Next day was a little awkward and he gave me hickeys so everyone else knew what had happened. But after that, we were back to being good friends, even though we didn’t talk about it until a few days later. We fooled around some more on the job and plan to hook up again sometime in the next week! Neither of us are looking for a relationship and I am perfectly happy with what’s happening right now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My female coworkers and some friends from back home. All were supportive and happy for me!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that I came into this job thinking, “I’m gonna hook up with this guy, he’s too hot not to”, and then 4 weeks later I did! And it was better than I had hoped it would be.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Him being too drunk to stay hard

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes! This was my first hookup ever and it definitely made me open to doing it again sometime.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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