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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Bartender
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Demisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60-70
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Her name was Tina. She was 24, petite with cat eye glasses, bobbed hair, and a vintage dress.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went to a local bar determined to get laid. When I walked in I didn’t know anybody and the bar was full so I grabbed a beer and just leaned against a wall. This cute girl walked by and I gave her The Eye. She walked right up to me and said, “You look like a real creep, just standing there watching women.”

“That’s a hell of a pickup line,” I said.

“I’m not trying to pick you up!”

“Let’s start over,” I suggested. “Hi. I’m Waldo. [Not my real name.] How are you?”

“Look,” she sighed, “Do you wanna just skip the part where we get drinks at the bar and take me home?” I thought that was a great idea and we walked out and got a cab. I hadn’t even finished my beer.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first, we had vaginal sex with a condom. Halfway through I checked in with her and asked how she was doing. “Good,” she said, “but I like it, like, REALLY rough”. So, I pulled off the condom, grabbed her by the hair, and violently fucked her mouth and throat. Then, I fucked her pussy some more and moved to fuck her ass for a bit. She ended up getting sore so I wound up fingering her until she came, then I jacked off and finished all over her.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The sex was great so I hoped we’d meet again but she wasn’t interested. I saw her at a museum not long after with someone I assumed to be her boyfriend. She gave me a wary look and I didn’t go over.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’m really turned on by sluttiness so maybe my favorite thing was how little we spoke before going home and fucking. The only time I surpassed this experience in pithiness was once when I walked out of a bar, I saw a random cute girl and said “Hey. Can I come home with you?” She said “sure”, and walked me to her car. We didn’t wind up hooking up but we did fall asleep holding hands.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it was just once. I’m pretty sure she was just using me to make a point but I really wanted to see her again.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope, still love it

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex, it’s thrilling to get intimate with someone you barely know.

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