What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India/Delhi
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? homemaker
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
A Night Out With My Husband’s Friend
How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 Months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner in crime is a simple but athletic looking but good to talk and funny as well as heavy flirtatious. He is a office and family friend of my husband but 15 year younger than me. I knew him since last 7 years. Me and my husband along with his friend and wife travel a lot together on different destinations. I knew him very well.
Though I have been rather a traditional Indian woman grew up thinking sex before and out of wedlock as a sin. Along with being a dark skinned woman I was always lonely without any boyfriend. Only after my marriage thing changed when my husband introduced to modern look and assured me that I am sexier than any other woman and great in bed. When we started traveling together my husband friend’s was sexually attracted to me which he told me 3 years back. Our hookup started 3 years back on a trip to Philippines with them. Before hookup he was just a friend and I was friendlier to her wife.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It all began in 2016 when in Philippines we were on a beach and first time I came out in a two piece bikini. He was looking at me with surprise. A day after that incidence he told my husband to buy a bikini more revealing than mine and send her wife with my husband alone.
While shopping, he was with me and he started flirting with me talking about my legs, boobs and my looks. I was little bit amazed with his behaviour but not angry at all.
During the dinner time also he kept looking at me. When we went for sleep my husband told me about his friend that he is attracted to me sexually and want to have sex with me which I laughed off.
From next day his behaviour changed drastically and he started praising a lot, touch my hand and hug a lot which I never did previously.
After returning from vacation he along with his wife became regular to our house. I too started liking his attention. During a night my husband told me if I wanted to have sex with him, he had no problem as long as it is not in front of him. Slowly gradually we started kissing and touching along with masturbation. Though I always used to deny when my husband told me to fuck him. But whenever I was in front of him I was always sexually aroused.
There was no as such planning was involved. One day my husband was out of town and he suddenly called me, then we planned to have sex. I instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took a quick shower and dressed up. He came and we drove to a hotel. Though he was little shaken thinking of fucking his friend’s wife, hence he took scotch and became little intoxicated. But in control. We did oral, vaginal etc. along with 69 position. It was a good time for me but little disappointed as he was not as sexy as my husband on bed. May be due to our first time.
We made love for almost 4 hours. We started with kissing and oral performance on each other. after that we did intercourse 3 times. His behaviour was really decent. He was a good lover but lesser than my husband.
He dropped me home. When my husband came back I told him the story with was happy as well as little disappointed that I was not fully satisfied yet, he told me that it is just a beginning.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great and masturbated thinking about him and my husband. Though I want a threesome with my husband and his friend, my husband is not comfortable. He says for threesome he will look for other guy who is not know to us that well and should be foreigner.
Though i will be happy to find my new sex partner and my husband on bed same time. Still its a dream. I will be having another sex night with him on tour if possible.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Talked with my husband and he was real positive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with younger guy and naughtiness.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes a lot. Now i think it spiced up my life and marriage a lot.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Earlier casual sex was sin for me but now i think it a must to bring newness and trust towards yourself. It also renews your commitment towards your life partner and create trust.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great initiative.
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