A Night Out

 

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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Lille
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Night Out

How long ago did this hookup happen? about 2 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a long-blond-haired girl. I was in a club after a party at work and a coworker offered her a drink. She was about ten years older and told us she was just coming back to town after a few years abroad. I’d felt attracted to her.
I was in a long-distant relationship with an older girl that lived 200 kilometers aways with her daughter and was lonely.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? During the night, I offered her a few drinks, she offered me some too. I danced wih her a little and then we went outside when the club closed. We walked to our cars and after an hour of talking, we went to a little park in the area and found a bench.
It was about 6am, and the day was coming, we were lighting up cigarette one after one.
I kissed her. I wanted to. She kissed me back, saying she had been waiting for me for making up my mind.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She knelt down and gave me head. I told her that I didn’t have any condoms but she just said “I got it”.
We kissed, touched each other or a while.
Then she came over to me and moved. I kept on touching her back and her breasts while kissing.
She stood up and bend over the bench asking me to take her doggystyle.
We finished that way.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

cWhat happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we had sex, we got the clothes that were on the ground then went back to our car.
She wanted to give me her number but I told her that I had a girlfriend in another town. I gave her mine (I’m not sure she kept it.) and kissed her a last time near her car.
Actually my relationship was weird at the moment and I hoped she calls me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talk to some friends. I don’t get used to have sex with a perfect sranger. Some blamed me for cheating on my girlfriend (there were right in a way), some was enthusiastic and said me that it was a good thing.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was convenient, we were outside and she got a perfect butt 🙂

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I waited a lot for a call.
I broke up a month later with my girlfriend (not the other girl’s fault) and in fact I was waiting for her to call.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I always thought that everybody deals with his own sexuality. We don’t have to justify ourselves about what we do.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Dare and don’t listen to people who want to impose their point of view

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a nice idea. You should translate it to other languages 🙂

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!