Current location: New Zealand
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Co director
Relationship status: Divorced
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 45
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Very many
A Very Disappointing Fuck
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? ONS
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him online. I actually talked to him first months ago but ended up meeting other men and not pursuing him. He popped up again and said hi months later and at that point I didn’t have anyone on the go and chatted to him. He lives not far from me and is university educated and single. He seemed a reasonable prospect for a casual thing.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We arranged to meet for a drink at a local bar, on a Saturday night. I was really happy to be out, the kids were driving me bonkers (school holidays). When I got there he seemed cool and we chatted and had drinks for a while. He is average/tall, nice looking, fairish hair, blue eyes. I started to wonder about him as in conversation he was one of those people who talks non-stop about himself. I hardly said a word, just nodded etc. However he was smart and we knew quite a few people in common and had fun discussing that. Towards the end of the night he asked if I wanted to go to his house for a drink. I think I was partly happy that he was truly single as he wouldn’t invite me home otherwise. So I said yes. We drove to his house and he got me a wine. We were on his couch chatting and he started stroking my legs and he suggested we go to his bedroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went in there and started kissing. He kissed my neck while he undressed me. Kissing was…. Ok. Not great, not terrible. I tried to get enthused. I undressed him and kissed him and pushed him onto the bed. I touched his chest and his thighs and took his undies off. He was hard and quite big. I sucked his cock a while then went back to kissing him. He said: do you want to fuck me? I said ok so he put on a condom and I straddled him and guided him into me. He felt nice and I was just settling into it and then he started thrusting and saying: are you going to cum? Are you going to cum? Over and over. I was confused. At that point he hadn’t licked my clit or even touched it. I’m reasonably easily orgasmic but with zero clit attention – not likely! Then he came. And he was done. He said oh no I don’t think you came what will we do? I might’ve suggested he eat me but he seemed totally clueless plus disinterested. I said, err, I can do it? He said ok, so I touched myself and came. He seemed relieved and not really aroused or interested. Immediately after he said: will you fuck me again? I felt uninspired. I fudged the answer but it’s no. No I will not fuck you again. It isn’t going to work if you ignore the clit. Not after the great sex I’ve had before. I’m not interested in returning to the days where there was no pussy eating or other clitoral stimulation.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did. It was totally me. On my own. Could’ve had the same result at home in my bed alone. He did too. Fast.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms thank god
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Still looking for someone who makes me feel as good as my recent FB. Starting to realise that he’s one in a million. May give up and hibernate a while.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Bit of alcohol. Few drinks only. Not drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had a babysitter and needed to go home. I wanted to go home. He drove me and I felt bad. He’s quite sweet but a lousy lover. Given this whole thing is about sex, I won’t see him again.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No-one. What could I say?
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not really. You don’t know til you try.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It wasn’t good.
Worst thing? Getting in bed with someone who doesn’t know or doesn’t care about the clit.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative