What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami, FL
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? free spirit
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >30
After A Day At The Beach
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s an older guy, mid to late 50s, bald on top and slightly overweight.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Dad was out of town for work. I’d got home from spending the day at the beach with my BFF Beck. She had plans so I was home alone. After a long shower, I was sitting outside by the pool and got a notice from Tinder. I didn’t have plans for the rest of the evening so I replied. We messaged a few times and he was in town looking for a hook-up. He gave me his info and agreed to meet up. I sent Beck a text, put on a dress & heels and left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He met me in the lobby and we went to his room. We took off our clothes and he wasn’t hard. He wasn’t groomed and was kinda small too. I sucked him but kept getting hair in my mouth. Gross! I got lube from my purse and used my hand. No use. He admitted he’d jacked off before I replied to his message. I started to put my dress on when he asked to give me oral. I wasn’t in the mood anymore and was ready to leave. I lied and said I just got off my period the day before and that might be risky and gross. He understood. I got dressed and he thanked me for coming by anyway.
I felt bad that I couldn’t get him hard and I didn’t want him to think I was rude for leaving so I suggested we go to the lounge downstairs and talk. We talked for 2 hours then he had to go because he had an early flight the next morning.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? To feel better about myself, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BFF Beck. She felt sorry for the guy too.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spending the evening with a nice guy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We didn’t get to have sex because he couldn’t get hard.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I still think it’s OK to have sex with someone you’ve just met.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s OK for people to have casual sex. I wish society would be more open and accepting.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good place to share experiences
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