All Over The Place…

by David

Gender: Male
Age: 32
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Seattle
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Professional
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

All Over the Place…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She had brown hair, lovely freckled skin, and an athletic body with one small tattoo. I met her at a wedding the night we hooked up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We danced a bit at the wedding. I was a member of the wedding party and had had to make a speech, which she said was impressed by. We left the wedding together–instigated by both parties. The look in her eyes told me she wanted to leave together and it just happened.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went downtown to a club that played hip-hop. We were kissing and grinding on the floor and then I caught sight of an open closet off to the side of the dance floor. It was filled with stacked chairs and a table. I helped her up to the table, pushed her thong aside, unzipped myself, and started having PIV sex right there. After a few minutes I realized I was having sex with a complete stranger with no protection and in public. I thought better of it, and we left the closet and the club. We went back to her friend’s place, where we immediately commandeered the upstairs bedroom, we went down on each other, and worked back up to PIV sex (with a condom) in a variety of positions. Because I had been drinking the whole day, I found it difficult to orgasm. About two hours into our encounter, I asked her if she liked anal sex. She answered in the affirmative. I didn’t have any lube on me, so I went to the bathroom and found a bottle of conditioner. After rimming her for a while, I lubed up and we had anal intercourse from behind. Finally, I was able to orgasm (she had come earlier)–it was one of the most powerful orgasms I have ever had–even to this day–because of the buildup over 3-4 hours. We cuddled for the rest of the night, and she drove me home (another city, two hours away) in the morning. We never spoke again. I received a strange text from her a few weeks later and responded, but never heard back.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I used a condom for some of the sex. There wasn’t any discussion of STIs or pregnancy. In retrospect, it was extremely risky and rather foolish of me (and her).

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? From my perspective–I was rather horny (and lonely).  From hers, I cannot say, but I’m guessing it was along the same lines.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Both of us had had a bit to drink. Perhaps me, more so.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t expect a future with this person, but I would have loved to have seen her again, even for just coffee.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? This was a consensual and wanted experience for me.  For her, too.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret not seeing her again.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best part of this hookup was the wild and uninhibited sex.  It was tremendous–I still get off just thinking about it nearly six years later.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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