What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Oregon
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
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How long ago did this hookup happen? a couple months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The guy was 4 years older than me and he was in medical school. We met on the cruise. A few nights into the trip, we both were hanging out in the same group of friends we had met earlier on the trip. We started talking that night. He was very nice and pretty hot. He was enough older than me, me having finished my first year in college and him being in med school, that I never thought he would go for me, even though I was into him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We kept hanging out with that group every night of the trip. We would flirt while we hung out. He would put his arm around me and make subtle comments about how he was into sarcastic girls, which I very much am. So, after about three nights and many cocktails, I pulled him out of the club and showed him a secret elevator I found. We made out in the elevator for a while. He used a LOT of tongue, but in a good way, something I had never experienced before. We went back down to the group about 20 minutes later. However, when I went back down another guy had shown up in the group. This guy was my age and attended an Ivy League school. We started talking that night, and two nights later I made out with the Ivy boy in the same elevator. He was not as good and got very clingy and weird so I dropped him and went back to the older guy. The next night I pulled the older guy back out of the club and this time we went to the top floor of the boat. It was about 3:00 am so no one was out, and we found a secluded area with lawn chairs. It was a nice night, not too cold and only a bit windy outside. We talked for a while and eventually started making out. That escalated and my shirt came off, then his; our bodies keeping each other warm underneath the stars. Then I put my hand in his pants and he put his hand in mine. It was good. He fingered me and I gave him a handjob. We stopped there that night seeing as there were people below and we didn’t want to do that much in public. So we made plans for the next night.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The next night we didn’t meet up with the group. I went straight to his room. I got there and we immediately started making out. My shirt came off and then his did too. Then I took my pants off and he did the same. I laid on his bed, only my underwear. He was slightly aggressive. He pulled off my underwear and took a second to look at the naked girl lying on his bed. He crawled on top of me and we started to make out again. We stopped so he could put on a condom and then he slowly penetrated me. I hadn’t had sex in a while so it kind of hurt. It got better after the first few thrusts, then it felt good again. I moaned, but I was afraid someone would hear through the walls of his room on the cruise ship so I tried to keep quiet but it was hard (and so was he). He would go slow then speed up then go slow again. Every once in a while I thought he was finishing because he would go fast and then really thrust hard and push himself into me as far as possible. He would grab my legs and spread them apart like he wanted to go as deep inside me as possible. It felt really good every time. He never fished when he did that though, he would keep going. After a while, we switched it up and I got on top. I rode him and he grabbed my tits, holding them in place as I bounced up and down on his dick. After a while, he told me to stop and I got off. He told me he was afraid to cum in people for fear of getting them pregnant. I told him I was on birth control and the condom was still intact but he still didn’t want to. Instead, I sucked his dick to make him cum. It didn’t take more than 30 seconds. He moaned when he came and I ran to the bathroom to spit. Then we got dressed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We got dressed, made out a bit more and I left the room. We hung out with our friends again later and would make subtle looks at each other, acknowledging what we just did. He would still sit and put his arm around me and his hand on my leg. That night was our last night on the cruise. He walked me to my room, kissed me very passionately, and then I went to bed. We all got off the boat and we haven’t talked since, and I have no desire to. Not because it was bad, it very much wasn’t, but because it was just a one-night hookup. It ended well and we left it at that.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends; they were proud.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I have a great story about cruise sex! Plus he was older and taught me a bit.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He didn’t finish in me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This was my first casual hookup with someone I was not in a relationship or had a “thing” with, so it made me feel a lot better about having consensual casual sex. I would definitely do something like this again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? After this, I feel much better about and more open to, casual sex. It not only made me feel better about myself, but it also was pleasurable.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is a very cool project!
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