Arrangement

by Midsummer

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Arrangement

How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? D/s Arrangement

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Dark, tall and slender however curiously handsome. Somewhat aloof, somewhat distant but intriguing and enticingly intimidating. I knew nothing about him. Previous encounters over social media consisted of short messages here and there, the usual conversation people engage in when they know nothing about the other identity. We had never met, but we wanted to. Missed opportunities were common when we were both in the same city, however, failed to meet. The only understanding we had of one another consisted of inconsequential selfies and a discreet “about me” description. There were no feelings before the hookup, no emotions involved – simply a WhatsApp contact.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began with a message. I had messaged a simple “Hello” … a day later I was greeted with a voice message, “I’m in London, I thought about you”. Planning was minimal. We messaged to-and-fro. He shared the address of his hotel, continuing to message me during his meeting. When his meeting came to an end, he messaged me once more – I was ready to leave so I left my home with the intention to hail a taxi. He was staying just 15 minutes away.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hook up our conversation was structured and minimal. He told me that we would take it in turns to ask questions, and I must always address him as Master. Neither of us orgasmed. The sex consisted of brief moments of pleasure, however no climax as he paused purposely. Perhaps showcasing his power over me, dominating the sex. We engaged in oral, however, we continued to pause, it teased me as I was fleetingly in a state of pleasure, only to have it taken away. There was a slight age difference, him being 29 and myself 19… I was quite daunted by his dominating persona so I did as he asked. Although he was dominant, it was not stone cold – we were intimate as we cuddled before we fell asleep. I stayed the night and left at an early hour.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, on the same day… I received a message “Did you enjoy it?” I replied with yes although still somewhat unsure. My hopes are that I can see this person regularly, I feel there is still much I can learn from them and I would like to understand their personality on a deeper level. Perhaps there will be no emotional ties, but I’m ok with that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one else knows.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was dominated, I was told what to do.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I am somewhat inexperienced sexually, and at times felt like I didn’t know what to do like I didn’t know how to please.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. It has made me more open-minded and curious regarding dominant and submissive relationships. I am eager to learn more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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