What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Car Dealer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? more than 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was super sexy – 6 pack abs and dreadlocks with glasses. An odd combination but it works for him. We had just met that night he was the friend of my coworker who is dating my other coworker that I’m close with. I never would have imagined we’d hook up. I though he was sexy and nice I guess. I had already been drinking at this point.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a mutual friends house drinking and hanging out and the police were called because we were too loud. My hook up partner was drunk and a little beligerant with the police so I took him into the bathroom so he wouldn’t be around the police. We’re in the bathroom and neither of us turn on the light and then he’s kissing me…and the rest is hook up history.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out, performed oral on each other, he fingered me, and we had sex. It was really hot actually we were mostly silent until we started to actually have sex. I tried to resist penetration at first since we didn’t have a condom but I was on birth control and had been drinking. While were having sex we talked dirty to each other, saying things like, “fuck me,” “you’re so wet,” “oh god it’s so big.” I had orgasmed twice and it took him forever to get his second (hence the chafing). When we were done he came on my butt and there was no toilet paper so I had to clean up with my underwear. As soon as we leave the bathroom its obvious everyone knows what we were doing especially because they had knocked. He makes many comments about our hookup and I just leave and say bye. I go home and soak my poor lady bits. We actually hooked up again recently it was better when I had been drinking.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was fine emotionally but in pain physically. The sex lasted too long and chafing occurred. At one point I thought I might have had an std.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend who’s place it happened at.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The spontaneity
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His friend talking about it
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was fun
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Truthfully I think casual sex is great and can help you get out of a sexual slump. I wish STDs weren’t so prevalent so as to take away the stigma.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a cool idea.
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