Berlin Man



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Half Slav, half Jew
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Berlin
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? sexually open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? around 40, maybe more
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none, this is the first one

Berlin Man

How long ago did this hookup happen? two weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The first time I had sex with someone 5 years older than myself, as I usually have sex with younger men.
I met him on the street, while waiting for a friend.
We joined him for a drink in a street cafe, had a few drinks, and later hooked up in my place.
He left in the morning, did not stay over.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It became clear we will be having sex when we started talking, and the guy was quite interesting and sexy.
He is usually not my type, but the blah blah made up for his looks, and eventually the sex was great too.
I instigated, as I ultimately introduced myself to him, but he asked me if I wanted to go home with him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was some kissing in a bar prior to getting home, where we engaged in a couple of hours of very nice, rough sex.
We had oral and vaginal sex, with some hair pulling and biting.
I think he was a good lover, but i did not like his refusal to use a condom.
We had a great time throughout, keeping talking to a minimum, and focusing on good old fucking instead.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up he has left.
We did not exchange numbers, and I did not feel the need to, as it was a simple one night stand.
I did not have any expectations, and I think he is married anyway (he hasn’t talked about his family, but he looked it- married).
I felt great the next day, and continue to feel great to this day. Have not remembered his name, nor will remember how he looks like in a couple of months.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a couple of friends.
They reacted positively; we all felt it might be a break in my past inclination to have sex with younger guys only. I felt like an adult.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? that we did not use protection

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no, my love of one night stands remains

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? When I was younger, I was trying to oppress my sexual desires, fearing a “slut” tag.
I would hate myself after each one night stand, but would seek them out eventually, once the self hate faded.
Nowadays I work very hard on loving myself, and not allowing my promiscuity to shape my own view of myself. Just because I fuck random strangers does not make me less kind, nice, or a good friend.
I would like to ultimately find a partner, and when I do, I mainly stick to monogamy, but while I am searching for the one, it does not mean I won’t say no to the occasional one night stand or fuck buddy.
Life is short, and if sex is making me feel good- I shall have it whenever I wish.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A fantastic project.

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