Better Late than Never

 

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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 61
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? South/Central America
What country and/or city do you live in? Guatemala
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I am submissive by nature
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? A dozen
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Better Late than Never

How long ago did this hookup happen? Three months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? At the hardware store, never met him before, and want to do it again.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning, spontaneous, both retired.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Agreed to get something to eat, talked about being lonely. We were both tired of masturbating so we went to his place and he took the lead. I had my first experience with a man, oral sex mostly, showering together, manhandling and touching, with one kiss.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We agreed to meet up again and we have met three times since.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I really enjoyed it, I had always been scared, but had often thought about it.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Do you become friends? Or just get together to have sex only.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I never had a problem with casual sex

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I wish I had done something like this a lot earlier in my life

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex doesn’t bother me, never has

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? OK

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!