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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Big brother is watching…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1,5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I first saw my later partner in crime when waiting for a taxi at the front door as he was checking into the hostel with a female companion. He must have been checking me out but as someone travelling with a woman I did not pay his handsomeness much attention.
He was the classic tall, dark and handsome stranger. Broad chested, strong armed and a remarkably prominent jaw. He just managed to not look like a total jock by his thick framed hipster glasses, beard and leather bracelets. From here on out we’ll call him Ben (because if sex had a name, it would be Ben)

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was staying in a hostel in Africa and went out with friends because one of us was leaving the next day. After a good dinner and some exploration time in town me and my friends returned to our hostel where we’d have a couple of beers by the bar. Some time later a conflict flared up near the staircase that connected the patio where bar and pool where located to the main house. Tall, dark and handsome approached our table to ask what had happened and a conversation developed. He then discovered we all shared the same nationality and time progressed. At first he meant to leave as he had only come down to buy a soft drink for his mother (!) but when the exit blocking argument prolonged he joined in our drinking instead.
We kept meeting more people, having more conversations, drinking more beers but Ben stuck close the entire time. He told us about the two girls he was seeing in two different cities back home and we shared many thoughts about sex, relationships and love. I believe this part of the night to have been fairly long but my memories are a bit beer soaked. At some point his mother (who he was accompanying on a book research) turned up and left again. At another moment police showed up concerning the ongoing fight at the stairs and later used tear gas which caused all remaining bar visitors to roam closely together very far from the site. Even later my friends went to bed and M and I kept sitting with locals around a table and by this time his hands had started stroking very far up my legs and when people asked to take pictures his hugs pulled me very close.
At some point we were the only people remaining outside and the barkeeper closed down and left.
The issue of not having a private room to retire to had been in the air all evening which is probably why our flirting had stayed fairly casual. Yet still we couldn’t bring ourselves to say good night and at some point I even snuck behind the bar to draw us another beer (which we left a donation for!). Somehow that seemed to turn him on.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Finally I brought myself to get up and leave. But as we hugged good night he took a gentle, firm and sexy hold of my hair, pulled back my head and before I knew it we were making out fiercely. After a lot of “I am so hot for you I want to inhale you”-kissing accompanied by impatient undoing of clothes, admiring strokes and maybe some scratching, he picked me up by the hips. While I was slightly grinding my crotch against his and holding on to his shoulders he pulled down my top and started sucking my nipples. Even though he must have been quite busy with keeping me on his hips it still felt like his hands were fucking everywhere.
We often interrupted our passion with some fits of drunken laughter or just because we needed air. In one of these intermissions I collapsed down on a chair and when he came close again I started undoing his pants. I love the moment a rock hard cock is set free and sort of looks at you and his was big, straight and somehow really beautiful (not usually a term used to describe dicks). I started stroking him with one hand, while the other kept exploring his athletic body and he got very vocal in his lust – yet another thing I absolutely love. I kissed his beautiful cock and he asked me to suck it but I told him I didn’t like to.
His reply was some thing along the lines of “You don’t like it or you aren’t good at it? Because I’m okay with the former…” Even though this sort of comment is kind of sleazy I gave in to the provocation and this might have been the start of my passion for blowjobs as I enjoyed the power my mouth held over his body.
At some point he lost it, picked me up again, buried his face in my tits and put me down on a table. He probably would have entered me then and there but a number of things happened that moment.
As he was pushing himself on top of me and I lowered my back on to the table we knocked over a couple of glasses that rolled off the table and broke. Naturally we jumped but the moment of relieve when no one came running to the noise got tainted as I almost instantly remembered the surveillance cameras over the bar.
All the pictures of him lifting me up and sucking my breast, me leaning forwards over the table with him closely inspecting my ass and fingering my pussy, me sucking his dick… all on camera. Even though the realisation woke me up I was really really in love with his cock at that point and asked him to move the party to the parking lot behind the house.
He went to his room to grab a condom and when he met me at the parking lot I was waiting for him on a washing machine… None of us stopped to explore what the washing machine was doing on the parking lot. Even with this 10 minute intermission he was still pretty hard but when I started unbuttoning his pants and pulling him in between my legs he became weirdly passive and mumbled something about being about to come and taking it slow.
I didn’t want slow I wanted him to fuck me and I was still really drunk so I might have told him so. At some point he (finally) rolled over the condom and entered me. Did I mention he was BIG? With all the work he’d done before hand with his fingers I was almost about to orgasm but after only two thrusts, that made me moan loudly into his shoulder, gasp for air and maybe see some stars, he stopped.
He pulled out more or less without a word, maybe he apologised. I held him for a short while but then decided I was to drunk for this shit and it was way past bed time. So we hugged good night a second time, did not kiss again and both disappeared into our dorms.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I woke up still drunk and met him and his mother at breakfast. He approached me and my friend and we all ended up spending a very interesting day together. He made me another compliment or two, his mother turned out to be a fascinating lady and after they left back to Europe we scarcely spoke ever again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends asked me about it the next day, we had a good laugh about it. It’s one of my favourite hook up stories, I tell it fairly often

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? There was no pressure or expectation. I felt great in my unshaved backpacker body because he didn’t care. Also his body had a natural and hairy masculinity and I get to tell people about this truly beautiful cock he had.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I may have sucked someones dick on camera.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Even though it didn’t change the way I think about casual sex generally, this might have been the first time I felt completely free and entitled to express my sexuality just for its own sake. It was liberating and the fact that no unpleasant aftermath came from it taught me that “no strings attached” is possible under the right circumstances.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I feel like I come from a background or at least a group of friends where casual sex is very common and absolutely accepted which might be a privilege when it comes to getting to know my body, experimenting with new partners and especially sharing experiences/worries/hopes. I think it is important for every young person to have a sex positive environment in order to learn about how natural and enjoyable sex can be. On the other hand I sometimes think that casual sex can also be a dangerous hiding ground to avoid commitment or emotional intimacy.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a fantastic platform. Most sex related content on the internet is either very “vanilla” and does not deal with more than the flowers and the bees or just plain pornography. Normal access to real sex and sexual identities should be so much more broadly advocated!

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