Birthday Sex

by Guy living abroad

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 34
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? China
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Translator
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Birthday Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my next-door neighbor. We had chatted and flirted a bit. I liked her, because she was pretty and bubbly. But she was young, so I didn’t think a relationship would be on the cards.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning on my part. I was home one night and she knocked on the door and invited me round to her flat. She told me her flatmates had gone out and left her on her own, and that it was her birthday. After a while we started kissing, then had sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was a bit short and awkward. Both of us were a bit embarrassed, I think. We just kissed for a bit, then had straight sex. I think I wanted to go down on her, but she didn’t let me. The sex wasn’t amazing, and I came quite fast, but I liked her and her body a lot, so it was still very enjoyable.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great about it, very flattered that this lovely woman had chosen me to help stave off her birthday blues. I tried to call her a couple of times, but she didn’t answer my calls, and she moved away shortly afterward. I don’t think she was hurt or upset, just didn’t want to take things any further. I hope that’s right.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No-one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The thought that I might have brightened up a miserable evening for my partner

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we didn’t really talk again. I don’t think a relationship would have developed, but she was a nice person – and I would have loved to hook up with her again.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me feel more confident about myself.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like it to be more accepted.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Seems great!

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