What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Latvia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Long distance “relationship”
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? +-50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy on Tinder. He was pretty handsome in his pictures: tall, tattoos, and nice style. Before I met him, I was nervous that he would not like me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We matched on tinder, and it was also my birthday. Straight away he said that he was a tourist and was searching for a nice girl to spend the night with. I didn’t know from the beginning if I wanted to meet him, but later I agreed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to his Airbnb apartment and were drinking wine and talking for hours before we had sex. After a while of talking, we started to kiss, and we had vaginal and oral sex. We made things a little kinky by adding some slaps and choking. The condom broke, so I had to take the day after pill. He was great lover and we had very good conection. Before sex, we talked about our lifes, parties, friends, our countries and etc.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He texted me the next day, and I was surprised. Now, we chat a lot even though he is in another country, and I’m gonna visit him in a few weeks. He is going to revisit me here, too. We have started a long distance relationship because our conection was too good to let it go.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up, Making new friends, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told some friends, and they said that it was good for me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That we had good conection, which I couldn’t find with anyone else my last few times.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is good if you want it. If you are bored, it will make you feel better. Also, it’s almost always a fun experience, but you just need to be careful.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like the idea!
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