What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Management
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had never met. We had connected online, and I had no idea what she looks like. After a bit of text chatting, speaking on the phone, and some online chatting, we decided she would come over to my place on Friday evening. She got to Delhi from a city that was 5 hours away at night, and I fetched her in a cab (although she insisted I should not). We got acquainted in the cab, and I found her attractive and charming. We never knew where this would end up, except that she was staying the night over.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We chatted briefly after we got home, and we both showered (not together, though). She mentioned she was tired and just wanted to sleep. Once the room was dark, and the lights switched off, we began to brush our bodies against each other and started cuddling and fondling, eventually ending up kissing. I went down on her, and she came easily. We were awake all night, and she rode me beautifully. She left on Monday morning, and we hardly left the room or the bed, ordering food in when we were hungry and fucking when we were horny (which happened quite a bit).
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We fucked like rabbits, alternating being going down on each other. More than that, we loved laying in bed, naked, fondling each other and making conversation. She was an accomplished professional in her field, and we talked a lot about our lives and our backgrounds. She came from a completely different background than me. While I came from Goa, she had spent a good part of her life in North India, and we bonded in those moments in the sack wonderfully. We were together on Saturday and Sunday and finally, she went home on Monday afternoon.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We did hook up a few times after that weekend, but the frequency of meetups decreased as we lived in different cities. Eventually, I moved away in a year or so. She got busy with other things. We are now married to different people, but are still in touch and catch up over a drink when we are in the same city.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Everyone else was/is doing it, Peer pressure, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I made friends with someone amazing, and I cherish the time spent with her.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Yes. Casual sex needs more social acceptance. It can lead to great friendships and can help one’s self-esteem.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Excellent project. Love the stories.
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