What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Midwest Area
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Part-time florist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last halloween
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s basically tall, blond, and blue-eyed, pretty typical and I was never really one for the classically handsome type but it happened. I knew him pretty well actually since we came from the same highschool and had a couple classes together. I dodn’t really feel any romantic feelings toward him but he certainlu was attractive.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was pretty tipsy at a Halloween party and out of the corner of my eye I saw a perfect Captain America. I’m pretty sure I told my friend (dressed as a sexy Luna Lovegood) that I was going to fuck him tonight.
I end up walking over and took too many shots with him – pretty sure he wasn’t drinking age, now that I think about it. We walked, or more accurately crawled, to his dorm room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, it was just plain old vanilla sex really, he had a much nicer dick than I was anticipating. I remember he asked me if I wanted to order takeout and I just offered to cook. And then I said something really embarrassing and cheesy like, “But I’ll be having dessert first,” and went down on him.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We acknowledge each other when we see each other on campus and talk on social media sometimes.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We agreed not to talk about it with our friend groups.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He had a great back to latch on to.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish we weren’t so intoxicated.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was dressed as Hermione Granger, it would have been better if he was Draco Malfoy but oh well.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m all for casual sex if that’s for you, I wish that sex wasn’t such a taboo topic if you weren’t in a relationship or married.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Glad to see others!
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