Casual Sex Between Friends

by Nena

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: Mexican
Current location: Indiana, United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Casual Sex Between Friends

How long ago did this hookup happen? One week

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Sex with a friend

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Latino. Semi- athletic build. We’ve been friends for a couple months, we mostly talked about relationships when it was just the two of us. We met on campus. We were nothing more than friends, who may have kissed on a boring Sunday.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He was going to be drinking at a bar near my house and since I didn’t want him driving home drunk (his house was at least 45 minutes away from the bar, mine was less than 2) I told him to call me if it got too drunk and I would put him up for the night. He called me about 3am saying he was sober and asking if he could just come over and talk. I said sure.  We ended up cuddling, and then he kissed me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Things just escalated from there. He shoved his hand down my pants, touching me. When he was done with that, he asked me what I was thinking and I answered, “How , maybe I should return the favor. You?” He said, “Why don’t you just fuck me?”  We moved couches. We had rough sex. He pinned down my arms, he choked me, and bit me. It was some really good sex. It ended when he came.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? He orgasmed. He decided to go against my wishes and cum inside me. Ew.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We both rationalized it by saying we were both emotional that night.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cleaned up, got dressed, and I fell asleep all tangled up in him while he watched tv. He left around 6:15 am.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a couple friends. They all told me to make sure I knew that he was an asshole.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual for the both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: great casual sex that didn’t ruin our friendship.
Worst: no condom!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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