What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is muscular, tanned, tattooed, and a little short. We chatted for a while online before arranging to meet.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After chatting for a few weeks on and off, we arranged to meet. I met him directly in his house, breaking rule number one of internet “dating”.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I arrived at his house really nervous because I’m not used to cheating and meeting people from the internet. After a little bit of small talk, I asked if we could just get it over with. We started kissing on the couch and then moved up to his bedroom. We had vaginal sex. I would have preferred more foreplay before. Then after a short recovery time, I sucked him off, we had some doggy style until he came then he went down on me. It was all good, but I was nervous. I think he was holding back because he doesn’t know me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I’d like to see this guy again with less nervousness involved on my side. I left shortly after to go pick up my kids. I don’t know if we’ll meet again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex at last, even if I didn’t orgasm due to nerves, after a few years of a sexless marriage.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’m officially adulterous and don’t give a f*ck. I would have liked a better endowed partner.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I wonder why I haven’t indulged before.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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