What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Special Ed paraprofessional/ part time bartend
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? sex curious at 60 after 35 years of marriage- Very fit trim short hair going gray-
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Alan is 64, grown kids, good reputation in community and fit and athletic. He hangs out at club and says his wife won’t came(she came once and kind of needy and would not let him mingle). Says they have not been physical in years and things going well in his life so no need to rock the boat but has come on to me clumsily and finds ways to show when he knows I am there. I confirmed this with mutual friends..they say they don’t understand why she is so cold as seems to have a good life…he is breadwinner with almost 2 jobs and does everything for her and girls who have done will in school and career.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He had told me a month ahead of time of wife going to visit daughters for 4 day weekend but he could not go. Reminded me a few times of his “stag” weekend and said I should stop by. Saturday night of weekend he stopped for a drink and said going home to watch basketball but would love some company as we held hands briefly. My shift ended at 8 and husband expected 12 so had some unaccounted time which I normally just hang with my friends at bar. I texted him at 830 I would be there in 15 min then told my friends I was heading home.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went into to his house, we kissed and I took off my wet shoes/socks. We went into the living room and put our feet up by the gas fireplace, rubbing them together and I noticed he had screwed up toes. He said they were from sports injuries, never got them fixed and I took one on my lap and kissed it as a joke. After 20 minutes it was time to move to bedroom. I am aware that I am the first new woman he has been with since 1984 so I am not sure how this will work. The fact that we have talked many times on personal issues and our ages mean this is like a 4th date so sex is the goal. I want to enjoy sex and hope he is psyched after many sexless years enough to surprise me..
We went to one of his daughter’s bedroom(gone to college) and laid on a nice warm bed. We took our shirts off and I had a sports bra on. We embraced under covers, kissed, and he slid off pants keeping boxers. I got on top and reached down for a feel, seemed nice but soft so off they went for a little stroking and his dick firmed up a bit and off went boxers. Snuck a peek and a solid average with “old man” balls; he said “I guess I am an old man.” I took my top off and we laid side by side and he buried his head between my breasts and kissed down stomach and removed my pants and panties so were both naked, 2 pale 60 year olds in decent shape trying to get it on. I kept my knees apart so he then went down on me and was enthusiastic and it felt good. I was clean and fresh so it was enjoyable for him.. He still seemed soft so I thought I would give him a X rated thrill, he laid back as I kissed down his chest(pretty fit for 64), navel, mouthed each ball and then hovered over his cock, looked up and smiled, and the slowly slid lips over tip and up and down shaft and kept at it for a few minutes until it felt hard.
He then went down on me again and definitely wanted to please me with his tongue and I think I had a small orgasm. I felt down and he was half hard again and I did not want to lose the chance for fucking, so I kissed him back to a kneeling position with his cock straight out, sat in front of him and wrapped my legs around his so he could see his prize, then leaned forward and took his cock into my mouth again, but this time I kept my mouth all the way down on it and used my tongue on underside to stimulate him (thanks Cosmo.com). After a few minutes it seemed to work (it went from straight out and spongy to an upward angle and hard enough) and we were ready to go. I switched positions and laid back spread my legs and took his cock into me and everything seemed to click although this would not be earth moving. We moved in rhythm and his 80% erection hit enough spots to make it work and I held his butt so there was no space and after 10 minutes I came, then he did and we tumbled apart.. He shrunk like a popped balloon and I probably just made it to the finish. At this age there are no more sessions.
It was near midnight when my bar shift was supposed to end and I needed to leave so I went to shower(gave him a little show wiggle as I walked away) and came back to dress. He got up and looked spent and shriveled and put on sweats to help me out, shoes and socks still downstairs (socks soaked) so slipped on shoes,, kissed and went to car. A nice surprise and I bet he will never forget it. I probably went a little overboard in putting on a show for him but it seems like he kind of got gypped out of 15 years of sex and all indications are he was not the guilty party. It was a fun challenge and nobody was harmed…I certainly had a spring in my step for the week.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I believe married men and women should only have sex out of marriage as they both have a lot to lose. My three flings of the past 4 years have been like that and have worked out. We have texted and he came in and we talked..I said it was great 2 adult with free will and we keep friendly. Will it happen again? Probably not as opportunity limited and we both don’t need to push it
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To cheer myself up, Making new friends, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? nobody but I feel some of the other female bartenders have read the tea leaves.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? enthusiastic and fit partner who kept up well for 64(he could have been a little harder but not his fault). Oral and regular sex both ways. attractive looking and respectful
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was a little touch and go but I stepped up and so did he
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, but I wonder how long married people with kids (grown which we both are) can keep up charade of marriage when kids are so perceptive. I also know as a woman I have all the power to make it happen or not and I took it this time
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I probably would not have done it if I thought his wife had any chance to fix their situation but having seen (not met) her and talking to people it seems doubtful at best. Maybe a mission of mercy
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It is easy to have sex especially as a woman but hard to negotiate all the logistics when you have jobs and families etc Many of these stories seem like fun crazy people with no strings attached but that is not most
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is a rare resource.. I am doing this as a cathartic experience as who can I talk to or explain this interesting night
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